Amy,
No you have not offended me. Please feel free to speak your mind, as tragedy such as yours does bring about many questions about what we believe in. Please understand that all of my answers are going to be based on what I understand the bible says. I grew up in church from the time I was 2 yrs old so my whole life is centered on biblical principals. Again, I aplogize if I offend anyone on this board. I'm not trying to brow beat anyone to believe as I do, I understand that we all come from many walks of life, but Amy asked me and this is the only way I can answer her, based on my own personal beliefs.
You stated : "My belief has always been that religion was created to give people hope and help them through bad times and give them something to believe in,"
If this is true, are you not in need of help to get you through bad times and something to believe in right now? Aren't you in need of hope? If religiou was created for those times, then you're in one of those times. Isnt it worth a try, if it will give you the hope that you need to get you through your pain?
You stated: " but why if there is somethign else, wouldnt he come to me to reassure me when i am in so much pain"
Perhaps one of the reasons why your Luke was in your life, was to introduce you to the idea of God, planting the seed of religion or God in your life. Perhaps that was part of his purpose in his short life. I don’t know. Just a thought. Some people believe that loved ones show us special "signs" that they are still with us. I personally don't believe that but I certainly don’t claim to be right or have all the answers. I think of my mom and dad when I see a cardinal chirping outside. I don’t for a minute believe that the cardinal is actually them coming back to tell me they love me. But perhaps God allowed the cardinal to show up in my yard as a gentle reminder of them. It’s a thought that brings me comfort.
If your Luke believed in God, then He is in a perfect place called heaven where there is no pain. I guess once I get to heaven, I wont want to come back to earth, after experiencing such beauty and perfection. But who knows, perhaps he will forever be your guardian angel. I do believe that we carry our loved ones in our heart forever, so he is with you , just not in the flesh like we want.
You stated: " I have always found it difficult to believe even since a child, i just cant get my head round making the world in seven days, and some of the other stuff that is written. I do believe in something but the bible is just too much for me to grasp."
I have to agree with you. How can anyone make the world in 7 days? How can anyone rise from the dead? Its too much for our human brains to comprehend, isnt it? A Human could never have done that. But God can and did. At least that’s what I believe.
Also remember, that our brains are HUMAN, imperfect, and because of that we are limited in our understanding. God is GOD...all knowing, all wise, the creator. The bible says we will know God exists bc of the beauty of the earth. I personally am in the medical field and am amazed at how detailed the body is, and how it has has to rely on each organ in order to work correctly. Its all syncranized perfectly. Its because God made us. There was much thought put into it. We humans just didn’t appear bc of a big "bang".
Anyway, Im getting into deep stuff here..sorry. But my point is, that God has NO limits. And bc we are not God, and don’t have a "God brain", but instead have a limited human brain, we are limited in our understanding and will never fully understand Him or some of the things that happen on this earth until we face God.
I hope that you will soon find something to bring you comfort, and to make you feel closer to your Luke, just as I find comfort in the cardinals. Its also good that you are looking for anwers into what you believe. I am here if you want to ask me any more questions. If my answers arent comforting, please seek out a church in your community where you can sit down with a minister, priest, pastor, to answer your questions. Perhaps a christian counselor would be helpful too. There was a time after mom died that I was angry at God and questioned and doubted His love for me. A christian counselor walked with me thru those times, sat with me time after time, answered my questions, allowed me to be furious at God, and gently guided me back to what I believed all along. I pray you will find that person for you.
Keep asking, keep seeking. And know you are not alone.
hugs,
lauren