Thank you guys so much for your kind words and advice. You are truly a godsend, and I mean that. How can I be mad at God when he led me to you?
The service is Saturday at 5 p.m. It will be a potluck and kind of a party type thing. My friends who introduced Joe and I don't think I should go, and I'll tell you why. Joe's wife was kind of mean, and she would call my house and leave evil messages on my machine. I didn't tell Joe about them for a long time, but then had to because they were coming every day, sometimes twice a day. Mind you, Joe was 60, I am 50 and his wife is 60. (mature huh?)
http://Then I got a letter (unsigned of course) telling me that Joe was no good, and if I wanted the truth, to call his wife (gave me the number too). I never called his wife, and never told Joe about the letter. I'm glad I didnt.
My friends are afraid if I go, the daughter will seek me out and make a scene. I am torn, because I do need that closure and final "good bye my Joe".
My 22 year old daughter is coming down tomorrow and spending the weekend with me. I may just have my own little service at a park or lake and say good bye. I do know where he will be buried, so at least I can go talk to him.
Thoughts?
I also think my friends who never met him (we were only together 6 months) are sick of hearing about him.
So its nice to have this place to vent. thank you so much
Terri