Jason,
For what it's worth: I am going out on a date tomorrow night. I met a lady on EHarmony. I was so lonely for so long. We have been communicating for a couple of weeks. I haven't told my children or my wife's sisters yet. In my mind it is just a date, just a chance to sit, relax and spend some time with a lovely woman.
I was faithful to Denise for 16 years. I love her then, and now and always will. But I think my heart is catching up with my head...Denise is gone and will never return. I will always miss her and wish we had more time together. But that will never be. I am on my own now.
Denise told me she wanted me to love again, should something ever happen to her. And I had told her the same. I will never forget her or stop loving her. I would want her to love again.
I have cried non-stop for the last year. I have mourned and grieved for her every moment of every day. It has been sad, depressing and hopeless.
But our love was better than that. It was great...the greatest love I have ever known. I will not spend the rest of my life crying and feeling bad about what we had. I have mourned the loss of Denise and the love we shared. Now it is time for me to stop crying and look to the future. I can't stay where I have been for the last year. Denise wouldn't want me to. She loved me.