My fiance's and his ex have an 8 year old daughter with disabilities. She can't talk, except for a few words, but she does sign a little. She is very small for her age and is extremely developmentally delayed. She also has a seizure disorder. She is so pretty and adorable and he and I love her to death. Our problem is his ex-wife. She has been denying him access to his daughter starting with moving an hour a way from him. (She actually said in court documents that she moved to keep her daughter away from her Dad). She uses his daughter's disability to get her own way with everything including the courts. She has said that if his daughter spends the night with us (which she hasn't allowed her to do for months) it effects her behavior, messes up her routine and causes all kind of problems. Every other weekend when it's his time to see his daughter there's always a reason why he can't have her. She'll be sick, or she has a temp, or she hasn't had enough sleep. His daughter has speech and physical therapy and his ex had the speech therapy scheduled for Saturday afternoons! So, of course every other weekend he can't even pick her up until after therapy and then she won't let us keep her overnight. We spend more time in the car driving an hour to and from, then barely having time with her.
Now the ex is taking him to court to have his parenting time reduced, claiming he doesn't use his current parenting time! Of course, she neglects to say that SHE is the one stopping him from seeing the child. Her idea of his parenting time is that he picks her up one day every 2 weeks, takes her out to eat for an hour or 2 and comes home. Nothing else will do.
This has caused my fiance and I so much pain and upset. The financial aspect of going to court to defend our rights and keep his little girl in our life is also daunting. I don't understand the need for ex spouses to be so cruel. The very minimum is every other weekend for 2 days, and we can't even have that. I never had this problem with my own ex as our children were grown when we divorced. But, this is new to me and I try to be supportive for my fiance, but he is so sad. I hope we don't lose what little time we have with her already.
Thanks for listening