Hello Caspercat: I too am also sorry for your loss. I know how raw that hurt is even after two months. Twenty years ago this past Christmas Day, I lost my husband, the love of my life to cancer. He was gone four months after he was diagnosed. Some days the pain from his loss hurts like it was today even after this many years. It is "normal" if you can call it that to feel lost now. My husband and I were like you and your husband, we did everything together. The only time we were apart was when we were at work. Sometimes I still find myself waiting for the sound of the door to open and see him walk in when he got home. I tried to do some of the things we did together; some I still do and some I don't. Just hang in there. Just worry about today then worry about tomorrow when it gets here. Put one foot in front of the other and keep moving forward. Don't feel like you have to rush into getting things done. You will know when it is time to do things. It was two years after he died before I could go through his things. I slept with his sweatshirt over his pillow in the bed for a long time. Try not to get upset when people say "you need to get over it, it's been so long." No one knows how it feels unless they have been through it. There is no getting over this. It never ends. You just adjust to it. That takes time. How much time? I wish I had that answer but I am still adjusting. You need to take care of yourself; that is the most important thing right now and in the future. I hope this helped a little.