Please, don't apologize for how you are feeling. I don't feel you are "boo hooing" about anything. Each is painful in its own way. We are all unique in our loss and that is what helps us to support one another. Your right, I lost a brother and a sister just has sad eyes, BUT, we all know what its like to lose a sibling.In my situation, I don't know if one would have been less painful as both. Interesting way to see it that way. Maybe just one would have been worse. The two of them were so close, if one had gone and not the other one........what would it have been like??? I guess its just one of those "what ifs". Who knows. I quoted a poem before that I read off the internet....."To lose ones sibling is to lose ones self, for part of me is gone".........How true is that! We grew up together, you would just assume we would grow old together. Not so in all of our situations. My parents are split and have been for some time, however, I DREAD the day I get that call. I truely feel, I will fall apart. I have no one here to help me. My sibs are gone. How does anyone expect me to do that alone? I only make it through by not thinking about those things. If I did it would "cripple" me. I can't allow myself to think that way. I pray my parents live a long long time. I don't hope they outlive me however, that would surely do them in. How have your parents coped? Do you have any remaining siblings? Answer if you would like, if your not comfortable, maybe someday. Its OK
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