I don't know if this will help or not but I do understand what your saying as I have said these same words and felt so much like you do. I am so frustrated at people who think we just simply go oops and move on::::
My counselor told me we never get over the death of a child, we learn to live with the pain and move with it. I find that is so true, we package our pain away and learn to live with it, but it is always there ready to bubble to the surface. I know my life will NEVER be what it once was and I will never be that person I once was, she left with my daughter. I feel what is left now is a shell of what I use to be. I think differently, feel differently, and react differently. My heart will never heal and I ask WHY everyday and will never understand why my only child whom I cherished had to die. I know if I received an answer I wouldn't like it anyway::::
So now I get up each day and try to find some reason to even bother with life at all. What purpose is there for me me now that I am no longer a Mom????I just can't wrap my mind around it.
If it were not for all of the parents here that have helped me so very much, I truly believe I would be dead now. Unfortunately each of us who understands suffers the same pain and emptiness. It is such a painful bond we share.
Know I GET IT and I know how very much your hurting and missing your precious son Tristan. I wish I could change things for all of us, but all I can do is listen and care.
In my thoughts,
Dottie Tammie's Mom