((((Robin))))
Those sound like very good goals, to accomplish one thing a day. A suggestion with all the crying you are doing, it would be wise, as Terry said, to drink lots of water and another thought I had is to have a sitz bath. I have learned that when you cry, you are releasing toxins and emotions out of your body so besides being very relaxing it is good to have a sitz bath so the salt will draw out the toxins better and you may sleep better. I just know that when I have a bath like that I feel so much better the next day. When I get out of the tub I am usually exhausted and if I go straight to bed, lights out, I can get to sleep quick. If not then it takes me minutes to hours to get to sleep. I also have a deeper sleep after a bath then if I don't have a bath.
In case you have never heard of sitz baths. Walmart sells the salt, it's called Epsom salts, and they would be able to help you with finding some, even if you don't want to buy from them at least you know what they look like, etc.
You just lost Tom so take it real easy with yourself. It's been almost 3 years for me and some days are good and other not so much for me. I have my kids to distract me and I have been working on finding myself, since I never really did that my whole life. I have always lived for everyone else and now I am learning to live for myself. I will never stop loving Riki and I will never forget him. I know some things will fade and not be as strong and I am learning to give myself the space to be gentle with myself and if I need to spend the day in bed and force my kids to fend for themselves then that's what I do. Oh and to make it clear for you, my kids are from my ex and all with the same man, not from Riki and so they don't have much of a loss to deal with in respect to Riki.
Hugs and love,
Shelby x