Riss, I'm so sorry that you have lost your daughter but I am so glad for you that you have found this site. I don't know how I would have survived without the support I found here 24/7. When I couldn't sleep. When people said, it's been a year, time to get over it and be who you used to be. I lost my 21 year old son Jimmy in a car accident. Eight years later I lost my Tommy, bi-polar, to suicide. I want you to keep telling yourself that you WILL survive. You WILL survive and live your life in a way that honors your beloved daughter. In the beginning we survive a day at a time, we get through the next hour. I want you to have hope that one day life will be worth living. You will have your own journey, your own story to tell. In my story, for three years I really didn't care if I lived or I died. I wasn't suicidal - I just didn't care. But I had surviving kids. I knew my fun-loving, always-smiling Jim wanted me to do more than just survive. I read on this site a post from a girl who had lost her sister who said that she lost her parents, too, because they never really came back after their loss. I didn't want my surviving kids to feel like that. I kept pushing myself, when I could, to be present to them - when I could. I rebuilt myself and my life without my son. And 8 years later I did it again. People say oh you're so strong. Maybe, maybe not. We can sit in a dark curtained room and never come out - really, that's the way we feel. Or we can slowly. But surely begin to live again. There were so many times when I didn't think I could survive, so many times when I didn't want to. But I sure am glad I did. I have two daughters, and one has married and given us two sweet grand kids. New life has made a big difference for all of us. Keep holding on, keep telling yourself that one day it will get better. You'll always miss your sweet daughter - tears are the price of love. But one day the excruciating pain will soften. Know that I care.
Barb