Hi Doug,
You don't get it, and for that I envy you.
For anyone to come to a spouse loss forum and complain about their spouse is either being cruel or just doing something thoughtless, and I know you're not cruel. I'm sure I'm not the only one very hurt by that, as any one of us would give anything to have them back, faults and all.
I wish I could give a great analogy to give you some idea of what it feels like.
I understand you are going through a hard time with your wife, but don't you think there are better places than a spouse loss forum to ask for marital advice?
This is a terrible time of year for most of us on here
I appreciate the apology, and I do hope things do work out for you.
Hugs to you and all the webhealing family here (((((((((((((((ALL))))))))))))))) <3