Almost a year ago, at my Adam's 7th heavenly anniversary date I felt more at peace that I had felt in a very long time. It was a comfortable feeling.
Now, almost 1 year later I am in a horrible emotional state and it is such an uncomfortable feeling.
I am hoping that once Adam's anniversary date passes some of that buildup of tension will automatically subside.
The tension is so real to me that I feel like I could cut it with a knife.
I'm living with "waiting for the other shoe to drop" … meaning Kate. To date, she is doing all things right and yet because of my worries (which I intellectually know are destructive & useless) I am waiting to lose her too.
I'm contemplating going back to therapy although after 8 long years of it I feel like I know the "tricks of the trade" and not much new insight can be brought to me.
I am planning on a trip to Aruba with Craig & friends and shortly after that going to visit my granddaughter and then go on to Fla. Hopefully a change of scenery will help out.
I stopped playing the harp and as of tomorrow am resuming lessons. Maybe that is a positive step in the right direction? I dunno, but I can try.
My heart broke when Adam died and yet it keeps on beating. I just don't understand why it doesn't just stop. I am not the person I used to be and that BS about what doesn't kill you makes you stronger is rubbish. I don't feel stronger, I feel broken in so many pieces.
I have many joys in my life. A wonderful husband, blessings of family and friendship, not one but 2 homes, plentiful food … and yet I know that I am sounding ungrateful for all of that. I'm not - I just hunger for more and that more cannot ever be satisfied without Adam. How is it done … to pick up the pieces of your life and begin anew? 8 years later and the very special blessing of a granddaughter and yet I still want to lay down my head and slip away. The pain of losing Adam is just so overwhelming.
Sadly,
Paula