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Terry

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How is everyone doing?
« on: April 23, 2014, 01:50:57 PM »

Hi all,

Haven't heard from you guys in awhile; Doug, Gail, Helene, lindsalee, Mary, Scott, Liz, Judy and so many more.

Please touch base when you find the time. :love9:

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Terry

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Re: How is everyone doing?
« Reply #1 on: April 23, 2014, 01:58:33 PM »
Hi, Terry! I'm doing ok. Had kind of a rough patch there for a while emotionally...just marriage stuff. Maybe personal stuff. I'm not sure. I think it'll be ok. Probably just stuff we go through. Hopefully it'll work out. I posted about some issues one day, but I deleted it. Probably best kept at home. Some stuff that really bothered me is improving and my wife's trying. It should work out. Even if it someday doesn't, I'm confident that things will be all right. We actually discussed divorce at great length when I was going through my crisis. It'd be ok. I'm confident we'd stay friends. We love each other, but more important than that...we like each other. It should be ok. Going pretty good right now.

My step-dad had his left leg amputated in October then again (higher) in November. He was in the hospital until February, but now he's home. It isn't all the way healed, but he is doing a lot better. He's getting around fine and probably about to be released from the wound care specialist back to his surgeon. They'll start prepping for a prosthesis. That was taking up a TON of time while he was in the hospital, but it's settling back down to more normal. He still isn't released to drive, so I'm taking him to his follow ups. He can actually drive but not more than short trips right now. I think they might release him for that on Friday at our appointment. He mowed last Sunday!! Luckily, I have a TON of sick time...more than I could ever use before I retire (nearly six months). I just take off when needed. They're settling back in.

Our daughter's also going through a divorce. It's been coming for a while but got very ugly the last few weeks. It's sad with little kids, but it is inevitable at this point. She tried her best. We're helping her get through that. She's having a really hard time with it because she really didn't want a divorce, but it takes two. We'll help her.

Guess we're living. Can't ask for more than that. The weather around here's been absolutely gorgeous this week. I'm about to start doing some more fishing...shopping for a canoe right now. It's about time to put out a garden. I might buy some flowers on the way home. I feel good.

Life's pretty good.
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Re: How is everyone doing?
« Reply #2 on: April 23, 2014, 06:30:15 PM »

Hi Doug,

You sure have had a lot going on with your family. It's so important to be there for each other, the way that you've been. You're all lucky to have each other. :icon_flower:

I'm so glad the weather has been nice and planting more flowers sounds like a plan.

We're all living. Yep. And, what we have is the here and now. This moment. That's our life.

Hey, the canoe sounds peaceful. Enjoy!

Thanks so much for posting and filling in the blanks. :love4:

Love ya, buddy,
Terry

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Re: How is everyone doing?
« Reply #3 on: May 07, 2014, 10:50:20 PM »
Hi Terry. Thanks for reaching out.  Things have been alright in my world though dealing with some new "stuff" as well.  My first cousin, Kim, was diagnosed in November with Stage IV colon cancer. She had her colon, liver, and lots of other stuff resected and she's now on chemo.  She "has a chance". Kim (she's 50 years old) has been a big part of all of my family's lives since Jori died. She is VERY close to Bryce and Sean, my nephews. In December, she was at my house playing with my little girl ("Evie", 2 1/2).  They were giggling and having so much fun. I watched from the distance and had a feeling of, "this is what I'm missing with Jori gone", while being thrilled that I got to see it nonetheless. Next thought: "my G-d, she's (Kim) going to die too". I think this grief thing might jade us (me), a bit! ;)

In any event, I miss my sister like crazy but I have re acclimated into society, to some degree.

I am always (and still) so grateful to you and to the members of this site. Not sure I'd be here today had I not found you.

All my best,
Scott

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Re: How is everyone doing?
« Reply #4 on: May 08, 2014, 01:03:14 PM »

Wishing Kim a full recovery. Today we have more cancer survivors than victims. None of us know how long we're going to be here as none of us are getting out of this thing alive so to an extent we are all terminal. The reason I feel the need to cherish every day and remind myself that this moment is all I have and I should do the best I can with it.

You have my heart having to deal with anticipatory grief. It's so difficult. Please know we're here for you.

Thanks so much for the update. I really appreciate it as I think of you often and your precious Jori. I know how much you miss her.

Sending big hugs and lots of love to you, :love9:

((((((((Scott))))))))

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Re: How is everyone doing?
« Reply #5 on: May 08, 2014, 02:17:46 PM »

None of us know how long we're going to be here as none of us are getting out of this thing alive so to an extent we are all terminal. The reason I feel the need to cherish every day and remind myself that this moment is all I have and I should do the best I can with it.


That's a fact. My dad was perfectly healthy and 57. He should have had another twenty or thirty years. One day he was here. The next he was gone. My brother was 22. Same.

None of us know which one's our last. Make them all count.

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