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5 years ago and really hurting right now
« on: October 20, 2013, 12:35:14 PM »
5 years ago today I lost my precious Jolene.  It still hurts like it was just yesterday.  It hurts SO BAD.  It is also a difficult time because the anniversaries of my grandparents' deaths are fast approaching too.  My grandfather's is the 26th and my grandmother's is the 31st. I visited their grave earlier this month and put flowers there.  It was the first time I had been to their graves in quite a while. I miss them so much too.  Why does it have to hurt so much?   :tearyeyed:
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Re: 5 years ago and really hurting right now
« Reply #1 on: October 20, 2013, 01:27:45 PM »

Oh Gail, I can surely relate to those dates being so close together as all of my babies dates, Dad & Mom's, too are in the next few months. Dad's birthday is November. Angel Date December. Michelle's angel date is Christmas Eve. Sal and Jeff are after that with four more dates. Mom's birthday Jan. 1st (New Years Baby) Time has never been a friend to me as the longer they are gone, the more I miss them. This is not my favorite time of the year.

I would really like to find that island!!! Your moderator is having a meltdown.

Know that I'm holding you close and I understand. :love9:

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Re: 5 years ago and really hurting right now
« Reply #2 on: October 21, 2013, 11:27:26 AM »
Terry and Gail, here are hugs right back at you. 

Gail, I can completely releate to what you are describing (as you know it's coming up on 5 years for me too) . . . I guess that why you've 'seen' me on this board a bunch more in the recent weeks.

I wish that I had the words that could ease your pain.  Just know that you have many people 'in your corner'.  It's so tough to see the rest of the world 'move on'.  I am now having some of my closest friends tell me, "it's time".  You know what I think?  F them!  Only the unlucky can appreciate our grief and I hope you find some comfort knowing that you are not alone.

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Scott

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Re: 5 years ago and really hurting right now
« Reply #3 on: October 31, 2013, 01:56:33 PM »
Terry and Scott,
Thank you both so very much for your words of support. There are no words to say how much they help during this VERY difficult time of year.  I would never be able to make it without friends like you.

You are both in my prayer daily but even more so during this time of year as well.  I hope that you will both feel your loved ones close during this time.

(((((Terry)))))     (((((Scott)))))

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Re: 5 years ago and really hurting right now
« Reply #4 on: November 01, 2013, 07:03:20 AM »
Hi Gail,

I just want to let you know I'm thinking about you too and hoping that you're dong all right. I know this is a very difficult time of the year for you. One thing that is really helping me these days are my friends. I have more than I used to because I'm in AA, and I don't know what I'd do without them. I hope you are surrounded by love and support these days. You've got it from me and I'm sorry that I haven't been around here as much as I used to. But I do care and I wanted you to know that.

(((((Gail))))))

Helene.


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Re: 5 years ago and really hurting right now
« Reply #5 on: December 30, 2013, 04:22:30 PM »
Helene,
Thank you so much for your words of comfort and support.  Your friendship is such a blessing to me.  Am so glad that you are making friends in AA.  I have reconnected with some old friends that I have not seen in years so that has helped.  Am always thinking of you.  Thank you for your friendship and support.

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Re: 5 years ago and really hurting right now
« Reply #6 on: December 31, 2013, 05:43:00 PM »
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Re: 5 years ago and really hurting right now
« Reply #7 on: January 06, 2014, 02:05:52 PM »
Thank you Pam.
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