Helene, I am so sorry to hear of your marriage troubles, but great to hear from you! And great to hear your recovery is going well.
Sometimes when a marriage hits a hard spot, the best thing the two can do, is to take time off.
I am probably more open minded to porno than most women are. Men have had a addiction to porno for years. Some more than others.
You have to ask yourself why his addiction to porno bothers you. I realize some women just don't like it, some feel threatened by it. Maybe its just the amount of time he spends looking at it.
Like I said, I don't have a problem with it. I had two husbands that watched porn on a regular basis. My kid watched porn, which made me wonder if the like of it was genetic.
You guys have a lot of years invested, like all other marriage problems, maybe the two of you can find a middle ground on this that you both can live with.
Love
Peggy