Yes it definately sounds like Lesley was on the beach with you! So glad she was there.
My last marriage ended because of his infidelity, so I know where you are coming from. I had to snicker at your comment to him about telling his family. Nothing like a little black mail to get what you want. I did the same thing with my last ex. He wanted to sell everything and split the money. I told him I had proof he was cheating, and I was taking everything, cause Ohio did not have no fault divorce. He soon realized it was probably best to do it my way, or pay alimony the rest of his life.
Take care of yourself, sounds like you are doing a good job!
Love
Peggy