Hi Gail,
I too am thinking of you during this Halloween week. Halloween is often not mentioned to be among the major holidays or special times of the year, but, in fact, we all know that Halloween is a very powerful time and always has been in our lives. Your memories of being with your dear sister Jolene on that particular Halloween night when the fog gradualy rolled sounds magical indeed! What a wonderful and ultimately painful memory for you. You and Jolene were so close as sisters! That is very special and nobody can take those special memories that you have away from you. I know it's hard. I know only from my own experience of how the way time goes on and our continuing struggle with grief does not always dissipate in the way some people say it is supposed to. 'Just get on with life. Stop wallowing in the past!' , my own husband has said to me more than once now that it is just over 2 years since Lesley died. 'Just get on with life.' How does one do that in lieu of having to try to continue 'living' without the siblings that we loved so much?! And who loved us?! And that goes for everyone who has lost a loved one, being a parent, child, spouse, sibling, cousin, friend, co-worker, other relatives, and yes, also pets. Sorry to go on so much here, but I want you to know that I'm thinking about you Gail and your dear sister Jolene. Please tell us more about her when you feel you can. I feel that I am gradually getting to knoew her and to know you. Your hearts are strong and pure even in the situation of you both now existing in different dimensions. I feel that Lesley exists in another dimension and has not been obliterated by what we know as 'death'.
Love from,
Helene.