Sonya....Lately, I have been asked that a lot and my reply is always the same, "Does it matter? Their gone." No one likes to be asked that question, "How did they die?" so you are not alone. It shouldn't be asked, as it's insensitive to assume someone wants to go into details while carrying such a heavy heart but that's the curious mind. Rather a simple, "I'm sorry" will always suffice.
Hugs & Love,
Terry