Wow! I logged in to make a new post, and found these wonderful wishes waiting for me. Thank You!
Now, here's what I was going to say...
It's been 7 months since my "Honey Ko", Eden died. I finally accepted her hospice agency's offer for bereavement counseling. I had a good introductory session with the therapist, who seemed very well versed and a capable listener.
Cynthia sounded just like the grief books and this board. "It sucks. It's going to suck for a long time. And then, one day, it will suck less. But it will still suck."
Is this what is meant by "you don't get over grief, you get through it?" And by through, they mean that what's on the other side of grief, is grief-lite?
Well, if that's what I have to hope for, then I guess I'll aim for grief-lite. I have another session 3 weeks out (she's booked solid).
In the meantime, I'll start group sessions to see if that is of any help. Cynthia says it's not for everyone, and to stay on the edge looking in when others dig a giant hole of sorrow during the sessions. She says to listen, and care, and empathize, and learn, but don't get sucked down in that hole with them. "Wear your armor," she suggested.
I pray for my own sense of peace, and all of yours, too. And I look forward to a time when this hurts a little less.