Lisa,
I know it feels like it will never end, it will, it just takes alot of time. someone near and dear to me explained it this way...when you lose a family member it is much different than a spouse, because that was supposed to be "FOREVER", growing old together and living happily ever after, I do beleive that's true, at least for me. Nothing has rocked me as hard as this before.
O,K,, so I agree with the breathing but you may want to try this as well....it is a homeopathic medicine called "GUNA SLEEP", you can find it in a health foods store. It is very mild, non addictive and without the side effects of sleeping pills, it was given to me by my doctor to try because I was only sleeping two hours a night, it has worked well for me as I didn't want to take anything that would really knock me out. It was given to my son as well and has worked for him as well.
This is all so exhausting and I wish none of us had to go through it.
xoxox
Rose