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IMUM

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just a couple questions
« on: December 08, 2011, 01:54:35 PM »
 i was wondering if anyone else has experienced lots of insecurity, since they started grieving? i used to be soo confident and sure of myself, strong and able. now not soo much.i almost question everything i do. yet i plug along. today i hated having to be at the grocery store because people are so friendly there and i just didnt want to be friendly or say hi to anyone or even to the cashier, also i hate making eye contact now and acknowledging people around me.. i normally am friendly and upbeat.is this just because i feel wounded?
also has anyone felt like the world is just not the same as you used to think it was when your loved one was alive? cause my outlook on life now isnt so optimistic as it used to be. i feel raw and jaded.( like as if, life before my grief was a bubble and that bubble was all a big happy lie. is this all normal?
 i love my life, it just aint as bright now as i go thru this journey. im hoping i will get more confident, im hopeful that i will grow from all of these sad feelings.

thanks
melody

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Re: just a couple questions
« Reply #1 on: December 08, 2011, 02:50:25 PM »

Our self esteem takes a beating when grieving a great loss. Yes, we're different, especially earlier in our grief. All of your feelings are understandable and what we've all gone through, even thinking the world has changed because it doesn't seem the same without our loved ones in it. So many things change.

A lot of time and even more patience and baby steps. One at a time. And, know we care and are always here for you. Keep posting, it helps!

Love,
Terry

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Re: just a couple questions
« Reply #2 on: December 08, 2011, 03:49:38 PM »
You will grow and you will change....this is a journey.....

Like Terry said, we are all here for you, keep posting.
Tony Repola 07/20/66 – 03/29/09
I know you are fishing in the oceans and streams of heaven