Author Topic: Just for Today  (Read 3025 times)

Terry

  • Administrator
  • Hero Member
  • *****
  • Posts: 5951
    • “Grief is like the ocean; it comes on waves ebbing and flowing. Sometimes the water is calm, and sometimes it is overwhelming. All we can do is learn to swim.” –Vicki Harrison
    • View Profile
Just for Today
« on: September 09, 2011, 01:05:39 PM »
I post "Just for Today" every year on the child loss forum. I have replaced child with loved one for all other losses as it applies to all that are grieving. I hope this helps you a bit. --Terry

~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~


Just for Today -  For the Bereaved

Just for today I will try to live through the next 24 hours
and not expect to get over my loved one's death
but instead learn to live with it, just one day at a time.

Just for today I will remember my loved one's life, not just their death
and bask in the comfort of all those treasured days
and moments we shared.

Just for today I will forgive all the family and friends
who didn't help or comfort me the way I needed them to.
They truly did not know how.

Just for today I will smile no matter how much I hurt on the inside,
for maybe if I smile a little,
my heart will soften and I will begin to heal.

Just for today I will reach out to comfort a relative or friend of my loved one,
for they are hurting too,
and perhaps we can help each other.

Just for today I will free myself from my self-inflicted burden of guilt,
for deep in my heart I know if there was anything in this world
I could of done to save my loved one from death
I would of done it.

Just for today I will honor my loved one's memory
by doing something with another person
because I know that would make my own loved one proud.

Just for today I will offer my hand in friendship
to another who is bereaved
for I do know how they feel.

Just for today when my heart feels like breaking,
I will stop and remember that grief is the price we pay for loving
and the only reason I hurt is because
I had the privilege of loving so much

Just for today I will not compare myself with others.
I am fortunate to be who I am
and have had my loved one as long as I did.

Just for today I will allow myself to be happy,
for I know that I am not deserting him/her by living on.

Just for today I will accept that I did not die when my loved one did
my life did go on,
and I am the only one who can make that life worthwhile once more.

~~~~Vicki Tushingham
   

oneangel

  • Jr. Member
  • **
  • Posts: 79
    • View Profile
Re: Just for Today
« Reply #1 on: September 09, 2011, 08:19:49 PM »
 This poem is beautiful. It really does explain well what we feel every day. Do you mind telling me where you found it and does she write more of these types of poems?

Thanks for posting!

Angela

Terry

  • Administrator
  • Hero Member
  • *****
  • Posts: 5951
    • “Grief is like the ocean; it comes on waves ebbing and flowing. Sometimes the water is calm, and sometimes it is overwhelming. All we can do is learn to swim.” –Vicki Harrison
    • View Profile
Re: Just for Today
« Reply #2 on: September 09, 2011, 10:07:07 PM »

Hi Angela,

This was written by Vicki Tushingham who lost her precious little baby, Daegan Ryder to Sids when he was 8 weeks old. Vicki has a Bravenet blog but hasn't updated in quite awhile.

This is the link: http://coylayr.tripod.com/pregnancyjournal/index.html

I agree that it expresses how we are all feeling after losing someone. It's one day and sometimes, one second at a time. It's a long journey.

Welcome to Webhealing, Angela!

Love,
Terry

   


johnkmurray

  • nospam
  • Sr. Member
  • ****
  • Posts: 295
    • View Profile
Re: Just for Today
« Reply #3 on: September 10, 2011, 01:41:53 PM »
I agree that it expresses how we are all feeling after losing someone. It's one day and sometimes, one second at a time. It's a long journey.

And not a linear journey, but one where you take two steps forward, one step back ... and some days are the reverse of that.

John

oneangel

  • Jr. Member
  • **
  • Posts: 79
    • View Profile
Re: Just for Today
« Reply #4 on: September 10, 2011, 07:52:05 PM »
Thanks Terry,

I look forward to sharing stories with everyone and hopefully get some comfort.

Angela