Wendy,
I just sent you a message and seems it has crossed with yours written here.
I would also like to apologize to you, Wendy and to Paula as I should have been more supportive and relayed that, when a message/messages were implying that you, Wendy, Paula and anyone else disagreeing with Don's statement were being selfish. You had and continue to have every right to voice your concerns. You have always questioned with a kind heart and have always been very supportive and loving to all here. Your leaving would be another great loss.
Again...No one forced Don off of this board. Especially those who questioned Don's statement and even the motive for that statement. And, Don also has every right to do the same. If we don't "agree to disagree" we will never learn from one another.
Another reason I did not set any guidelines when asked to moderate this forum. In the past, we couldn't mention Holidays, as that hurt some. We couldn't mention God, as some were angry with Him. There were a list of phrases as long as my arm that we dare not mention, either. After reading my OWN request for a guideline about two years ago, I since then deleted it as it, too would have caused others to have to dig too deeply before sharing their sacred words.
We don't need to walk on eggshells here in this holy place where we gather to share of our beautiful and precious children and the deep pain we live in due to their absence from our lives.
If words are hurting another, they simply need to state that, as Wendy and Paula did without a hint of attacking. It was merely a disagreement.
And, as we move forward on our journey, allow me to lend a gentle reminder to all who post here: If you are continuing to post here, it is because you are a member of our online family of bereaved Mom's and Dad's and please, by all means disagree whenever your need arises, but if your intention is to cause harm to another member by way of attacking their words or their integrity, please know that your post will not be welcomed.
I would also like to apologize to all of our new Mom's and Dad's that, at this time have just been reading and are finding the sharing here, the love shared here to be very comforting. I hope you will continue to read and when you are ready, share your story with us. We look forward to hearing from you!
As a long time and valued member of this board, I am asking you, Wendy to please reconsider leaving your online family. You would be dearly missed. Take a break, if you feel that's what you must do, but I look forward to your supportive posts and always, sound advice in the future.
You have My Love,
Terry