Dear Don,
As I relayed to you last night, this misunderstanding has been dealt with. I was hoping we would all move on to why we are here in the first place. I know you, Don. I've had that honor over the years and I know, as others do that you would never hurt another human being, especially someone in pain. I think I made that very clear in both of my messages to you. I sure wish you would have responded to them so we could have talked about it in length and this is where the lack of communication can cause a rift on the board ending up in hard feelings, which is so unfortunate.
Although we are all mature adults, we are adults in an enormous amount of pain. Feelings are right on the surface and like I explained to you, 'you' were not being questioned, your message was. Some saw nothing wrong in what you shared and also shared that with me by messaging me. You also have every right to feel the way you do, just as the posters reading the message had a right to share that they saw it as something other than what you intended. And, when members are upset, out of concern for their feelings I will always address it. Now, 'you' are upset and my heart is heavy. I wish I could remember how many times, by my sharing that I have offended another but I've lost track because I don't take it personally. I understand that it is the pain talking. Usually, I will receive an apology but it is not necessary.
We've both been on this board long enough to know that this happens and quite often around Angel Dates or really, any date marking our children's memory. Please try to keep that in mind, Don and it may help you to better understand where the others are coming from. Pain speaks loudly. Also, and I feel you should know this without my mentioning the sources that after my post on the board addressing this, as I was asked to....the same members were immediately concerned for you and wanted to make sure that 'your' feelings were not hurt badly and asked me to relay that to you. But, again I never heard back from you.
Feelings will get hurt and we will heal from that, always, but losing a valued member of this board over hurt feelings and/or a disagreement, causes me to have a heavy heart because it sends a message that we can no longer voice our concerns out of fear that someone we care for deeply, will leave the board. I also know/understand that this, too is not your intention.
I Love you, Friend and your precious Donny,
Terry