Dear Tom,
I so appreciate your kindess. Once again you have helped me through another family death like you did when I lost my parents 17 years ago.
The woulda, coulda, shouldas always creep in. Yes the finger pointing sets in when a death is not natural. His wife, remaining daughters and sons in law have gone over the top to make sure John 'knows' Jenny's passing was his fault. Along with grieving he is still recovering from his spinal surgery. He is unable to work as yet and my fingers are crossed that his application for Social Security disability will come through. Many have asked why John just doesn't leave and get a divorce. John is terrified of being alone as he has never been alone. The emotional abuse from his family is outrageous. I've been helping him this past year with paperwork stuff and have tried to arrange for state assistance. Even after a long session with Utah's Adult Protective Service director, John is not considered a vulnerable adult. Blows my mind. Any positive self esteem is gone.
I've committed him twice to the U of Utah Hospital psych unit after he said he was going to do himself in. So what do you do -- just worry I guess. He did accomplish detoxing from Methadone at least.
Most Fondly -- Karen