Hi Lana,
Thank you for posting again. To tell you the truth I wasn't sure how to take your first post. I am glad you came back to explain. I didn't think that you meant any of your words in a bad way but wasn't sure how to take it.
My heart goes out to you for the loss of your son. I can't even imagine.
Yes, I have some people very surprise that I haven't gotten through the loss of Lou. I tell them until they are in my shoes they will not know how I feel even if it was for 5 seconds. I cry all time and don't do much because I am still grieving. You can't put a time on your grieving.
I get many signs from Lou and I write them in my journal. I only had one dream of Lou and we were getting married. It was weird because I knew he was there but couldn't see his face. I woke up in the middle of the night and his picture was showing on my cell. The only way his picture would show if I were to slide my phone up. So I know that these were more signs from My Lou.
Thank you again for the kind words and I am wish you the best and happiness.
((((((((((((( Lana ))))))))))))))
Hello again,
Your words go straight to the heart as that is certainly where they came from. No loss is the same for everyone. In my first posting, I should have started with how sorry I am for your loss of Lou. You obviously shared a loving beautiful relationship. My son, Brian's father and I were divorced when he past. I grieved of course but the most difficult part of that was having to tell my daughter that now she has lost her father in addition to her brother - her best friend. I lost an ex-boyfirend - never married but my longest relationship - not the same as loosing some one you love so and expect to spend the rest of your life with since our relationship had ended. Lucky to still have been friends. I have not experienced what you have. I can only imagine the pain and it saddens me so for you as well as all that have gone through and are going through that. Going off track here and I hope you don't mind and I hope I dont affend anyone. When I first came to this site in 1996 it was much different. There was no separation of postings, just one site for all. Everyones grief is so raw. What people must remember is for all of us that have lost loved ones, we all have at least one that for us is the worst. I had lost loved ones before and since but nothing compared to my son. You aren't supposed to out live your children. Back to the point - since everyone was posting about different losses, some would get offended by those that compare their losses to others. I hope you know I wasn't trying to do that. One post that I will never forget is a person who responded to anothers post. In this particular post it was a response to someone whose mother had just passed. The responder said " I know how you feel, my cat just died and I am devestated." Oh my gosh, talk aout a ton of responses and it wasn't pretty. But this person had apparently never experienced anything worse in her heart. So many people were offended and posted it very sternly. Personally I was offended as well, as much as I have loved all of our pets I would never compare it to the loss of a person. I'm rambling a little here - my minds going in a lot of different directions. I'll close that part by just saying I think Tom has done a really good thing by separating losses into the type of losses you have experienced. That way everyone is close to being on the same page and therefore less chance of conflict. My posting to you was the first I've done in many years. I didn't know if I'd post at all being away from the site for so long but your heading touched my heart and I wanted to help. I know of course that only time will help. I dislike when people say you will get over it or find closure. What I believe is more accurate is that you will learn how to live with it. I wish you good dreams about Lou, I still find compfort in dreams especially when I get a hug from my son. I wish for you happiness in your future even though it may not seem yet like you can have that... I pray you do. Take care!
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