Hi, I just signed up here. I just lost my mom 8 days ago. My mom had been sick since the end of December 2018, with pneumonia. She went to the dr several times, each time with no diagnosis. She was living with my sister at the time, and my mom had gotten worse, so my sister took her to the ER. There my mom was finally given the diagnosis of pneumonia, almost a month later. She was also on the verge of being septic and had a uti, too. After a few weeks, my mom was put into a nursing home. She wouldn’t eat or drink and kept getting weaker. She went back into the hospital, then a board and care and back into the hospital. Where she was once again diagnosed with pneumonia and a uti. She passed away in the hospital with my sister at her side. I had the chance to go see my mom, but after the last picture my sister sent me, I didn’t feel like I could see her. I now regret that decision. I had the money to fly to where my mom was. I just didn’t think that I could do it. I had posted on my family page about my mom’s passing, and I got the most horrible ugly email from my older sister. I haven’t been the same since. Just typing this in, I’m starting to break down. Her email hurt worse than my mom’s passing.
My dad passed away in Sept 2016, 3 days after my birthday. No one kept me updated on him. I never knew when he was in the hospital. I happened to call on the 16th, and my mom said that he had just come home from the hospital and that hospice had just left. My mom gave my dad the phone so that I could talk to him. I was able to tell him that I loved him, and that if he was to see the light or someone came to get him, to please go. My dad had cancer and I miss him so much. My dad was cremated and my mom had a memorial service for him. I never knew when it was, as I was not invited. My sister said that was my mom’s doing. I felt so hurt by that. Now I find out by looking at the mortuary web site, that my mom’s service says private.
My younger sister said that she was thinking around what would have been my mom’s birthday in October. I don’t know what to do. I don’t have anyway of getting a hold of my younger sister. I sent her a text to my mom’s phone, but I don’t know if she has turned it off or not. I’m to afraid to call and find out that it has been turned off. I feel so alone right now, like an empty shell. I’ve not gotten much comfort from my husband. I have no one to talk too. I just don’t know what to do. I have no friends either. I hope that someone can reach out to me, and help me.
My relationship with my sisters has not been good. My younger sister texted me on my mom’s phone and kept me updated and we made some choices on things after my mom passed.