Hi to all!
I had posted my reply before seeing yours, Sarah. In the future it would be more productive to ask what has occurred instead of suggesting to someone that they had caused a problem. I'm addressing this specific issue because there are times when a member will jump on another member for something they are sharing before they even understand where they are coming from. This is a child loss forum. Emotions run high. By all means, disagree. It is how we learn from one another and get to know each other. Let's attack the message, not the messenger. And, if this doesn't apply, let it fly.
Tom has put his all into this board and cares deeply for others and deserves respect!
Recently, someone had posted something very impulsively, but out of love and care and then realized she should have "Breathed First!" (much love to you...
) I'm not singling anyone out right now. This is for all on the board. I am just suggesting that we take a step back and a long, deep breath before responding to anothers post in the future.
I have not been sleeping. But, I write this with all of the love in my heart for everyone, and thank you so much for caring)
I have been receiving a lot of messages asking me what is going on, on the board. I will post my reply for all to read.
Judy was acting on her own last night, and on her own I mean without Tom's permission. He specifically asked her not to delete any posts. Tom did not intervene but was totally unaware that she was also deleting entire threads. She went on, and with help from other members here to take it upon herself to not only delete posts of her own, but entire threads where she had posted in.
And, as a result she has deleted everyone else's posts as well. And, without asking anyone's permission. Mine are also gone. This was an irresponsible action to take as there are those on this board who trusted Judy. That is now being questioned. The care she showed to other members here is also being questioned. None of this was necessary and by 'none of this' I mean...taking apart half of the board! This was totally uncalled for.
Due to these actions and without regard for others feelings or permission, as Tom has explained, what Judy has done has complicated the entire situation.
For the members who would like to see their postings returned to the board, just let Tom or I know. Tom keeps a full back-up of all postings and although this task would take some time, he is willing to re-instate all of the posts for any member. He cares for you all and has found this to be very unsettling as I have and I'm sure many others have, too.
I hope in the future when someone is planning on 'moving forward' in their grief or for whatever reason they are choosing to 'not post' at any particular time, that they leave with a grateful feeling for all they have been given through the sharing of everyone's heart here.
This place is holy ground. We share our hearts and all of the intimate details of our lives and I have always felt safe here. I hope in the future if someone is having a problem, that they will address it on the board to be able to receive support. That is the reason we are all here for each other and this has been, for most of us the only place we could come because even our family at times could not be there for us. We understand each other's pain here and we also grow together. We're a family. Let's continue to treat each other with the kindness and the courtesy that we all deserve and that we rarely receive elsewhere.
I trust that this post will put to rest everyone's questions and concerns. You are all correct to have them and I understand where everyone is coming from.
For those who are leaving the board/have left...I wish you only peace on your journey. For those who are here and will remain until you feel you must continue in another direction...Thank You for your support, your caring hearts and most of all, your love. I remain so very grateful for all of you.
My love,
Terry