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Cheryl - Brett's Mom

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« on: June 25, 2010, 08:12:18 AM »
It's been eons since I last posted here but thanks to Terry contacting me on FaceBook I am revisiting to get to know everyone. I lost my  18 year old son in a MVA 5 years ago July 9th. He was the 4th child & youngest son of 5 children, all now grown. Brett had just graduated from high school 6 weeks before his accident. The 5 year anniversary is messing with my mind and my heart...I am a mess, but working hard (and it IS work!!) to forge on and try to be able to function and be a good wife and a good Mom and 'Mimi' (4 born since Brett's death).  On Monday I am leaving to attend the Compassionate Friends National Conference in Washington DC. This will be my 3rd conference. 5 days after I get home will be the 5th anniversary, then EARLY the next morning my husband & I are leaving for a vacation with one of our sons & his wife for 19 days. I will be taking memories of Brett with me on both trips.

I have used 'food' as my 'drug of choice' over the past 5 years and now that is taking a toll on my health. I gained 64 pounds and now have high blood pressure, beginning of kidney disease, beginning of liver disease, and an enlarged heart. I also have the beginning of rheumatoid arthritis so it makes it difficult to exercise, but I am trying to use the zest Brett had for life to motivte me into losing weight.

I look forward to getting to know many of you here and remembering those that were here when I first posted here years ago.

Terry, thanks for being so sweet for thinking of Brett & me recently. I am crying as much now as I did 5 years ago, but with the help of my family & friends I will be okay.

Chery, proud Mom to Shawn, James, Kyle, BRETT & Kelsey
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« Reply #1 on: June 26, 2010, 09:18:05 AM »


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« Reply #2 on: June 26, 2010, 02:00:01 PM »
I'm so glad you're back Cheryl!!! I'm glad we found each other again, too!! I'm sorry to hear of your health problems.

I have shared as we all have and many times, that if we knew 'then' what we know 'now' we would have taken better care of ourselves. I think we've all been victim to our stress. It really does take a toll on us.

I often share with new members the importance of rest/sleep, drinking plenty of water and exercise, but when it was suggested to me early on I know I didn't pay much attention to it. It's so hard to even see past the pain, at times.

I've always been an avid walker, since I was young but it did take about a year before I started dragging myself 'out-there' again, to exercise.

That's so good you're able to attend the CF conference!

I cry a lot too, Cheryl. I don't think that will ever change. This pain of missing our babies is just awful. And, these dates can take us to a scary place.

Just know we're all here for you and you're loved and cared for, always. You're never alone.

You have my love and thoughts of your precious Brett, always!