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Cheryl - Brett's Mom

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« on: June 25, 2010, 08:12:18 AM »
It's been eons since I last posted here but thanks to Terry contacting me on FaceBook I am revisiting to get to know everyone. I lost my  18 year old son in a MVA 5 years ago July 9th. He was the 4th child & youngest son of 5 children, all now grown. Brett had just graduated from high school 6 weeks before his accident. The 5 year anniversary is messing with my mind and my heart...I am a mess, but working hard (and it IS work!!) to forge on and try to be able to function and be a good wife and a good Mom and 'Mimi' (4 grandlittles..one born since Brett's death).  On Monday I am leaving to attend the Compassionate Friends National Conference in Washington DC. This will be my 3rd conference. 5 days after I get home will be the 5th anniversary, then EARLY the next morning my husband & I are leaving for a vacation with one of our sons & his wife for 19 days. I will be taking memories of Brett with me on both trips.

I have used 'food' as my 'drug of choice' over the past 5 years and now that is taking a toll on my health. I gained 64 pounds and now have high blood pressure, beginning of kidney disease, beginning of liver disease, and an enlarged heart. I also have the beginning of rheumatoid arthritis so it makes it difficult to exercise, but I am trying to use the zest Brett had for life to motivte me into losing weight.

I look forward to getting to know many of you here and remembering those that were here when I first posted here years ago.

Terry, thanks for being so sweet for thinking of Brett & me recently. I am crying as much now as I did 5 years ago, but with the help of my family & friends I will be okay.



Chery, proud Mom to Shawn, James, Kyle, BRETT & Kelsey
Please light a candle in memory of our loved one Brett Ginder by visiting http://brett-ginder.memory-of.com

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Re: Checking In
« Reply #1 on: June 26, 2010, 09:18:05 AM »
I HAVE CERTAINLY MISSED YOU & WILL NEVER EVER FORGET YOU & BRETT LOVE YOU & THINKING OF YOU ALWAYS . LOVE & HUGS SANDY SHANES MOM

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Re: Checking In
« Reply #2 on: June 26, 2010, 02:00:01 PM »
I'm so glad you're back Cheryl!!! I'm glad we found each other again, too!! I'm sorry to hear of your health problems.

I have shared as we all have and many times, that if we knew 'then' what we know 'now' we would have taken better care of ourselves. I think we've all been victim to our stress. It really does take a toll on us.

I often share with new members the importance of rest/sleep, drinking plenty of water and exercise, but when it was suggested to me early on I know I didn't pay much attention to it. It's so hard to even see past the pain, at times.

I've always been an avid walker, since I was young but it did take about a year before I started dragging myself 'out-there' again, to exercise.

That's so good you're able to attend the CF conference!

I cry a lot too, Cheryl. I don't think that will ever change. This pain of missing our babies is just awful. And, these dates can take us to a scary place.

Just know we're all here for you and you're loved and cared for, always. You're never alone.

You have my love and thoughts of your precious Brett, always!

((((((((Cheryl))))))))

Hugs,
Terry