clc,
Im sorry for your pain. Sometimes in grief, if feels like its getting worse instead of better as time goes on. But Im here to tell you, the pain doesnt always feel as deep and intense as you feel it now. You will have better days, easier moments, good weeks soon. There is hope. You are just so early in your grief (grief is considered "early" for the first year to yr and a half). You will be able to manage your emotions in time. But for now you need to allow yourself to feel the anger and the pain and to cry those tears.
It might help to excercise when you are angry. or to write God or your brother letters , telling them how you feel, even the angry feelings. This helped me alot. I journaled alot here as well as in my personal journal for yrs. This allows you to "purge" your mind for a bit, put it on paper, and close it in a drawer so that you dont have to think about it anymore.
I hope these tips are helpful. Keep writing us! We're here for you
lauren