juanita;
I am feeling such pain for you going through all of this. Even tho it's been 7 months since I lost Jim, I can still relate to alot of what you are saying. The meds thing was hard for me to, as I posted earlier, and I chose not to take them at this point. I do not like taking pills or anything that has so many side affects; however, if I had gone to the Dr early on (I just went 2 weeks ago) I think I would have been on them.
I went back to church, but it took me a couple of months, as I lost my faith in God for taking Jim; why would he do that? I have since gone back and I STILL cry every mass, every mass! Especially when they say to pray for those who have died. It gets to me every time; sometimes thru the whole mass. I just bring my tissues, sit towards the back and cry and wipe my eyes; what better place could I be. The tears help the release for me. Most of the time, I cry on the way home, too. It's hard to see the couples at church. Sometimes I feel the message was just for me! I told Father that after mass one day, and he said "sure it was for you Kay and for many others here today, too".
Went to the cemetery yesterday before going anywhere else for the 4th. Spent alot of time crying there, put a towel on the ground and layed there, just sobbing and talking to Jim; yes, it did help. Again, for me, crying helps realease. I miss him so much, my heart aches. I miss our future we were planning that never will be. I miss his hugs, his kisses, his everything about him...... I know he is never coming back to this world, but doesn't mean I can't want for him.
I am so glad to hear you got out of the house and wanting to volunteer. Have you checked into a greif group in your area? Do you have something like that at the hospital or it's called grief share? You can look that up on the internet for one in your area. MAYBE just stop at the neighbors house, even if the garage door is shut; she may want the company to talk as bad as you need it. I pray you can find someone to talk to and keep talking as much as you need to. Come back here and keep posting - we will listen!
I still find it hard to go out places, but I am forcing myself to more and more. The only thing that I fear is, I will get too busy to grief? Does anyone think that is possible to do? I have thought about it before. Just doing and doing and doing and almost like putting it off, like it isn't happening and will go away.
I had and still have sometimes those panic feelings, like my whole body will shut down and I won't be able to go on. However, I didn't think I'd be saying this, they are less and less, and it's the roller coaster that keeps moving and won't stop to let me off. Again, it is not as harsh. I know it's a different time phase for everyone, and I still am stuck on that. I don't see a major light at the end of the tunnel yet, but hope to some day soon.
Agree so much with Seven until you can get to the Dr tomorrow.
Sending some STRENGTH, COMORT and (((( HUGS )))) and PEACE. Hope you are able to get some sleep.
Take Care
Kay