Best self-help techniques

[SoCal2010]

List the things you've done for yourself that you feel have helped the most.

[SoCal2010]

So far....

* Reaching out to people online

* Allowing myself to cry whenever I feel like it

* Trying to spoil myself like my Mom did

* Letting my body rest whenever I need it

* Talking to her outloud

* Writing my blog as a way of venting

[littleha]

I read every night in bed for about an hour to take my mind away to a different place.
I talk to myself more than in the past and  do not care if others look at me in a strange way.
Reaching out to people on the net, I would be lost without it.
Expressing my feeling to my 2 closest co-workers who have been at my side since day 1. Thank you
Listen to music as I visit internet sites.
Thank you to all my virtual friends here.
Allan

[Luvinmike]

This is another great idea Socal;

Sixteen months later- many of the same things still help with the surges of grief and pain-

Walking, shower, make myself an egg sandwich, vigorous exercise, rest, movie, reading, journal, kissing photos, knitting alone and i joined a group, getting out, staying in, internet can be good and bad for me- sometimes i stay offline as it makes me feel lonely, pets!, Friends!, Kids!, Church, kayaking, beach, glass of wine, getting involved in causes and projects, cemetary, memorial tributes, throwing flowers in ponds, looking at the sky day and night, REMEMBERING the LOVE.

[sevenofwands]

Terri:

I have read and re-read your post.  It is wonderful.  Yes, rememebring the LOVE.

Best to you
Seven

[georgiapeaches]

Hi Socal,

I like Terri's too.

I do very vigorous excersizes also, its helps with anxiety. Also I alway look at the pictures on my walls for hours and I carry a small photo album my mother made of my wedding in my pcketbook, it has my mom in it too. I have always loved to look at pictures, so it helps me alot. I dont get out alot other than work, I dont know why but being around people lately makes me feel out of place. I like to read alot, and just be alone. That may change, hopefully it will, I like the people at work, I talk alot with them and actually thats thereputic. Taking care of my animals is very fun also, they are very amusing to me. They take away alot of stress, my house is definitly for the birds.  .