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How to Make It Through the Night-Sleep Issues and Grief
« on: June 15, 2009, 12:59:07 PM »
Many who are grieving find sleeping difficult. Over time, lack of sleep or fitful sleeping can take a toll on physical well-being.

Author Marta Felber knows from personal experience that nights can be long and sleepless following the death of a loved one. Here Marta shares what she did to sleep better and stay healthy after her husband’s death.

How do you cope with grief and insomnia? Below, share your ideas for making it through the night.


How to Make It Through the Night
It Seems Endless
By _Marta Felber_ (http://www.lifewords.com/)

I can pretend during the daytime that Joe is away working outside or in his workshop. Alone for the evening meal and crawling into an empty bed confirm the worst! The loneliness for him descends like a shroud and there is no escape. What do I do to get to sleep easier? And what about those long hours in the middle of the night when I wake and can’t get back to sleep?

Ideas for Getting to Sleep and Surviving the Long Nights

STICK TO A REGULAR SCHEDULE. Have dinner with the TV news commentator.
Have a set time to go to bed, a radio alarm to wake me at the same time every morning. Get up, regardless of how little sleep I have had. Maybe take an early afternoon nap, not longer than 30 minutes; set the timer.

GET REGULAR EXERCISE EVERYDAY, but not within 3 hours of going to bed.
Exercise relieves stress and may help me relax and fall asleep.

AVOID CAFFEINE AND ALCOHOL. Caffeine is a stimulant that can interfere with sleep patterns. In addition to regular coffee, there are measurable amounts of caffeine in chocolate, some soft drinks and non-herbal tea.
Alcohol also disturbs sleep patterns.

EAT LIGHT AT THE EVENING MEAL. Have a carbohydrate snack about an hour before bedtime. Also try a glass of milk.

AVOID SLEEPING PILLS. It is too easy to become dependent and too difficult to get off them.

GET SUNLIGHT IN THE AFTERNOON. It helps my body’s natural clock let me sleep at night.

CREATE A SLEEP-PRODUCING ATMOSPHERE. Low lighting, soothing music, a tepid bath, deep breathing, visualization of a beautiful setting, relaxation of body muscles or inspirational reading. Develop a nightly ritual of the things that work for me.

BESIDE MY BED, for those long wakeful hours, put dull reading material, a journal to record my feelings, note cards, a note pad for “to do” lists, a manicure set and a radio for late night talk shows and music.

IF ALL ELSE FAILS, go to the kitchen and make hot chocolate, adding marshmallows. Sip slowly, listen to the night sounds, look for the moon, the stars. Remember that nighttime is a good time for crying, and crying is healing.

I only need to get through one night at a time. I can do this. When I wake during the night, I will determine if I need to cry, get busy, prepare food or just feel God’s presence and a place of peace. Morning will come.
Wishing You All Continuous Comfort & Peace,
John-Danielle Marie’s Daddy
1/4/95-2/20/06 (head trauma-motor vehicle accident)
“Her friendship was an inspiration, her love a blessing”

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Re: How to Make It Through the Night-Sleep Issues and Grief
« Reply #1 on: June 15, 2009, 05:20:04 PM »
Thank you so much for sharing.
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Re: How to Make It Through the Night-Sleep Issues and Grief
« Reply #2 on: June 16, 2009, 07:03:26 AM »
I have my bedtime routine: nightly I thank G-d for each blessing that he has bestowed upon me (family, job, home, etc.). I think that it is important to be grateful and humble for all of these gifts.
I also say a prayer for Adam and tell Adam how much I love and miss him.
I pray for G-d to watch over my family and help them through their trials and tribulations. Although this part does provoke some anxiety in me as I wonder if
G-d's answer was to bring Adam to his heavenly home because maybe it was too harsh a world for my gentle son and I don't relish the idea of that happening again to my other troubled children anytime soon.
I like to go into a bedroom that is neat and orderly, windows open to let in the fresh air, have taken to unplugging the phone as not to have my daughter's friends calling and disturbing my troubled sleep.
I really cherish when Craig is not working and we can climb into bed together, snuggle, talk, watch House Hunters International or Landscaper Challenge, talk about the show and say goodnite to one another with a kiss and a grateful heart.