Dear Scott;
Hi, I am sorry for the loss of your sister. I wanted to reply to you though our situations are different (Suddenly lost my 44 year old husband) I have wondered the very same things about therapy. I know you will need to make your own decisions and definitely follow your own instincts, but I wanted to tell you what i think. I think therapy, like most things in life- give you back what you put into it.
I would not be condescending to say it won't fix this, clearly you know that- but, like Sadeyes said, it can help. I have gone off and on a number of times in my life to a couple different therapists, I use them for the professional listener that they are basically- like a confidant. I find it frustrating to try to get advice, as they have not walked in my shoes, but instead they might have some good ideas, or insights, or even questions for me. I have also used medication, but i won't allow it to be a controlling factor for my life. I am a big fan of exercise, talking about our loved ones with therapy, friends, other loved ones- doing something good in honor of the people we miss. You sound like you have a caring wife and young child so i wish you the very best in seeking the support you deserve right now. I would also say, when in doubt- look up in the sky and realize we are all in this together. Again, I am so sorry you lost your sister...keep writing here, we all care. terri