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My sister, I'm still so sad - 4 months 13 days
« on: March 29, 2009, 09:41:11 AM »
My beloved sister Deb lost her battle with Von Recklinghausens Disease Nov. 15, 2008. There is no cure but we fought to find one and I will never meet another person so brave and special as my sister. She was 48. Married, with one son and me- her only sibling. We lost our parents at 16 and she became my instant mom. She gave up so much to raise me although only 3 years older than me.

She worked up until her very last day, in pain everyday, could not eat and suffered so, but never complained. She always cheered me on in whatever I did - got me out of so many messes and helped me when I became divorced and had to raise 2 kids. I will never forget how special she made holidays and looked forward to wearing her Christmas sweatshirt while shopping on black friday. I held her hand when she passed away. I wanted to tell her so many things but I couldn't stop crying. There is a huge ache in my heart that never dulls. I wish I could have one last coffee with her. I'm so very sad. I actually took a job transfer from the east and moved to Texas. I told myself I just needed a new start. I try and remind myself of how much better she is now and not suffering. I remind everyone else how short life is and never stop telling those we love how special they are. 

I know now my sister was a gift. I think she knew exactly why she was put on earth - to help others and to make me who Iam today.

I often hope that when its my time to leave earth that I too will only be remembered so fondly as my sister. People did not talk about her home or car, or how wealthy she was in dollars, but instead everone shared how she helped to make special moments in each one of our lives. For this, I am truly blessed.       

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Re: My sister, I'm still so sad - 4 months 13 days
« Reply #1 on: March 29, 2009, 10:19:05 AM »
im so sorry thats horrible 2 lose family -i know she still loves you -losing your family members one by one is horrible--im so very sad

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Re: My sister, I'm still so sad - 4 months 13 days
« Reply #2 on: March 30, 2009, 07:26:36 AM »
Your sister Deb sounds like a wonderful person.  You are right, our siblings are a gift to be treasured and when they are taken from us, it's very painful.  But, some people only need so much time on this earth to touch others with their kindness, and leave their impression on so many lives. 

I lost my older sister Jackie on January 21st.  She too was like a second mother to me because she was so much older than me.  She did so many positive and uplifting things in her 37 years, I don't even know how I could even begin to start comparing to her legacy.

Just know that you aren't alone, we are all in this together.  Take care.

My Darling Sister....I will never meet anyone in my entire life as strong and brave as you. I will regret the rest of my life never telling you that.

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Re: My sister, I'm still so sad - 4 months 13 days
« Reply #3 on: March 30, 2009, 06:06:39 PM »
im so sorry thats horrible 2 lose family -i know she still loves you -losing your family members one by one is horrible--im so very sad

Thank you so much for your kind words. Its very comforting to me to know that others that don't personally know you still find time to send a touching thought. 

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Re: My sister, I'm still so sad - 4 months 13 days
« Reply #4 on: March 30, 2009, 06:09:04 PM »
Your sister Deb sounds like a wonderful person.  You are right, our siblings are a gift to be treasured and when they are taken from us, it's very painful.  But, some people only need so much time on this earth to touch others with their kindness, and leave their impression on so many lives. 

I lost my older sister Jackie on January 21st.  She too was like a second mother to me because she was so much older than me.  She did so many positive and uplifting things in her 37 years, I don't even know how I could even begin to start comparing to her legacy.

Just know that you aren't alone, we are all in this together.  Take care.

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Re: My sister, I'm still so sad - 4 months 13 days
« Reply #5 on: March 30, 2009, 06:17:45 PM »
Your sister Deb sounds like a wonderful person.  You are right, our siblings are a gift to be treasured and when they are taken from us, it's very painful.  But, some people only need so much time on this earth to touch others with their kindness, and leave their impression on so many lives. 

I lost my older sister Jackie on January 21st.  She too was like a second mother to me because she was so much older than me.  She did so many positive and uplifting things in her 37 years, I don't even know how I could even begin to start comparing to her legacy.

Just know that you aren't alone, we are all in this together.  Take care.

Thank you so much for your kindness! I too believe that we are all here for a reason. Some of us are truly angels on earth. I believe my sister was an earth angel. Your sister Jackie sounds like she was too. Like you, I  believe I could never compare to my sister. I just only hope I can make her somewhat proud in some small way. 

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Re: My sister, I'm still so sad - 4 months 13 days
« Reply #6 on: April 23, 2009, 01:31:55 PM »
Your sister sounds great. Just like my mother i also loss someone on Nov. 15, 2008. I mother died of kidney/heart trouble. It's 5 months now and my heart is still broken in pieces. Everyday i pray that oneday i can see her face and here her say cook me some fish. I pray, and pray i take one step forward and two back.

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Re: My sister, I'm still so sad - 4 months 13 days
« Reply #7 on: April 26, 2009, 04:43:41 PM »
Thinking of you Trying... and also so sorry Princess. I'm sorry you lost your Mom. I am also sorry for all of us here missing someone, it really hurts. Keep going and sending warm thoughts. Terri