Hi everyone...
I just registered, because I'm having one of the 'bad days' and I was looking for a resource online to try and help myself...
I just turned 20 a couple of weeks ago (it was my dad's birthday too, he would've been 65).
Two months ago (to make a long story short and because most of the details are really more personal than I want to share), because my mom, dad, and eldest brother (I have one remaining) were so depressed and were suffering every day, my dad stabbed my mom and brother to death and burnt our house down with himself in it.
Even typing it, it doesn't feel real. I've been having dreams about it, and I wake up thinking "oh thank God, it was just a dream!" before realizing that I'm still living this nightmare.
My dad and I were so close, because we had the same birthday, we had a really special bond. My mommy was my very best friend. I did everything in my entire life just to make her proud.
Now I feel like nothing is worth doing, because there's nobody to make proud anymore. My parents are gone, my biggest brother is gone. I'm so grateful I still have my one brother, and an aunt who is caring for us, both of whom I love dearly...but they're not my parents. I want my parents, I miss them, I need them, and I don't know how to live without them. I still feel like a child. I'm still in need of my role models, and my supports, and it feels like they abandoned me.
I've never lost anyone before. All of my grandparents passed away when I was too young for it to have an impact. I'm going through all of this for the very first time, and in the worst possible way, and I'm not handling it well. I'm so scared, and when I'm scared I call my mom and she makes me feel better. Now, now I just don't know what to do.
How can you deal with grief? How can you keep on living? I'm so afraid, I've experienced so much at such a young age, I'm so afraid that there's so much more that's left to suffer.
Please help me. How are you all managing? How can you come to terms with a life that has a completely different future than the one you've spent your life imagining? I've just started, there is so much more I want to share with my parents. How can I deal with all of those lost opportunities?
How do you deal with all of the fear, and all of the anger?
How can I learn to keep living?