First of all, I have to admit that I am a total idiot and apparently forgot my log in password and could not get back onto this blog for awhile. I finally just set up a new account. My brain seems to have a lot of trouble since my Dad died in December.
Just tonight I was so frustrated with my mom. I love her and have been trying so hard to help her, but she has not changed. She is my only parent left so I try to appreciate her on all levels. But she continues to just shut me up as soon as I try to say my opinion on anything. And she continues to view any possible good or fun news with skepticism and criticism. My friend's wedding is in July and I am a bridesmaid for the first time. I tried to distract my mom from all her stress and sadness so I sent her a web link to the dress. The first thing she says is, "is that the dress??". She doesn't say it is or isn't pretty. And then she instantly asks if I have to buy it and what I am I going to do with it after I wear it for the day. ugh. She can't just be happy or just comment on the dress? My parents were both always instantly responding to most things in my life with criticism or skepticism so I shouldn't expect anything different from my mom just because my dad died.
I also realized tonight that my mom is using me as her "pseudo counseler" without realizing it. I am not qualified and I myself am going to two counselers in fact! One is because I am trying to join a bereavement group but they make you do one on one first and the other was recommended to me from a friend and I really like her (the counseler) a lot so I will keep going until I run out of money.
I miss my Dad so much. I keep wondering if he is ok wherever he is. I keep hoping he will be in more of my remembered dreams. So far I have only had one dream with him and the instant I woke up I forgot it.
I don't need any reply to this, but it does help to be here and just shout stuff out to people who would understand where I am coming from.
I also have to rant about hospital bills. They just keep bombarding my mom left and right with these bills. It is also very confusing b/c my Dad spent time in TWO hospitals, it's a complicated and long story. And the second hospital they thought my Dad was on medicare but he wasn't b/c he was under my mom's insurance, but they never asked us and now we keep getting bill after bill and my mom keeps having to call all these people and tell them her insurance information for my Dad. It seems like we try to move on after someone dies, but some things won't let you, like bills from the hospital.
I think that if someone dies, you should not have to pay the bills. I don't know who would pay, but I Just feel so mad right now about hospital bills.
thanks for reading or whatever.
sad and frustrated greengirl