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Resolutions for Bereaved Parents
« on: December 30, 2008, 01:47:02 PM »
Resolutions for Bereaved Parents


* I will grieve as much and for as long as I need, determining my own time-table.

* I will grieve the way that suits me best, and I will express my feelings the way I choose.

* I will recognize that tears are natural and healthy, and that I am entitled to cry anytime, anywhere.

* I will say the name of ________ when I want to say it. If it bothers other people, it is their problem, not mine.

* I will not expect others to understand my feelings, because they have not walked in my shoes.

* I will not blame myself for the death of my son or daughter. I will accept that I did the best I could to be a good parent, based on what I knew at the time. (When I fall prey to feelings of guilt, I will understand that they are normal and will eventually become less intense.)

* I will commune with my son or daughter daily in whatever way that feels comfortable and natural to me. I will not need to explain or justify this private connection to anyone.

* I will eat, sleep and exercise daily in order to help my body be healthy enough to cope with my grief.

* If I become forgetful, unable to focus, sad, anxious, angry, or afraid, I know that some of these symptoms may be part of the normal grief process. If they become extreme or cause significant disruptions to my life, however, I will seek professional help in dealing with them.

* If at any point, I cry or temporarily 'forget' my son or daughter, I will not berate myself. Such changes do not indicate a lack of love. They simply indicate that I am alive.

* I will remember that the road I am traveling is not straight, and at times it may circle backwards, be stalled by obstacles in the way, or even come to a stopping point. That's okay, though, because it is my unique journey.

* I will try to find something positive or uplifting to think in my life daily.

* When I can, I will reach out to others gently, knowing that the spirit of my son or daughter is lifting me up.


Wishing You Peace Along the Journey,
John-Daddy of Angel
Danielle Marie Plourde
1/4/1995 -2/20/2006
Memorial Website: http://danielle-marie-plourde.memory-of.com/


Wishing You All Continuous Comfort & Peace,
John-Danielle Marie’s Daddy
1/4/95-2/20/06 (head trauma-motor vehicle accident)
“Her friendship was an inspiration, her love a blessing”

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Re: Resolutions for Bereaved Parents
« Reply #1 on: December 30, 2008, 05:37:26 PM »
Thank you John. As always, you speak wisely, kindly and proundly.
XO Love to all my sisters & brothers-in-grief XO
Wishing you all peaceful moments, signs from your Angels & many blessings

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Re: Resolutions for Bereaved Parents
« Reply #2 on: December 31, 2008, 12:38:52 PM »
I don't post here often but I want to say much love and hugs to you all here and those resolutions apply to us all that have lost a loved one - God bless us all, each and every one - Kevin

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Re: Resolutions for Bereaved Parents
« Reply #3 on: January 01, 2009, 11:54:39 AM »
Thank you for sharing. You have alot of great information that you pass on and I really appreciate it.
Tammy (Jordan's Mom)