Hi,
Sorry, that I am late in replying. My three teenagers are home for summer holidays,
and the likelihood of me spending much time on the computer now, is not very high.
On my mom's birthday, I planned to pick strawberries and enjoy them with my dad and brother, but that didn't happen as planned. Strawberries were one of my mom's favourite treats, and picking them around the time of her birthday was a tradition.
What I did do, was go through her overgrown garden and slash and hoe till most of the weeds were gone. I then went to the gardening centre and planted some new colour in there. My dad is in a wheelchair and doesn't often get out(from home), but he sits out on the front deck, which overlooks this garden. He loves flowers and my mom always did, so in fixing up the garden, I felt that I was honouring my mom, and giving something for my dad to enjoy.
Thank you to all of you for your replies. In the first year, I just had to make it through the day, for any of those special days, but as time goes on I find that doing something to honour my mother, is almost like getting her a gift for her birthday and something that makes me feel better, than if I was to do nothing. I don't ever feel that she is completely away from me,