Welcome, lostwithouthim,
First, let me say how sorry I am that your brother passed but I am so glad that your chose this board to come to. There are alot of caring and wonderful people here. I can only speak for myself, I lost my only son, 24, on Dec 15, 2004 in a car accident. Everyone grieves in many different ways it's very much an individual journey. I know you and your whole family is hurt and suffering in your own way. Maybe your mom just doesn't know how to deal with anything right now. There are definate stages that you go through and anger is one of them. When I lost my Jason my daughters would not talk about it because they didn't want to upset me and I'm glad that you are at least trying to talk to your mom about your brother. It will help her in her healing. The only way you can help her is by being there and being available when she does want to talk about your brother. Be patient with her and give her lots of hugs. She may not seem like herself right now but always remember she loves you very much and together you will all get through this journey. Come here as often as you want to there will always be someone available. When you are able to we would love for you to share more about your brother.
One day, one moment, one breathe at a time!!
hugs and love
Donna (Jason's mom)