JasonH's Mom, Bonnie,
I can not believe , yet sadly I can, that someone actually suggested this to you Bonnie. Yes, I have experienced this.
For me it depends on the day-who I'm with or how it was brought up in conversation . I have said: Wade was killed due to a MVA, WAde died, or after Wade's accident,,,it all depends. I don't like sugar coating this b/c there is no sugar coating. I have thought about how my son would want me to respond and sometimes that is when I say "After WAde's accident" especially when talking to his classmates and friends. I believe that each of us has to say what is best for us at that particular time. Maybe in a few months I 'll respond differently.
To me, "passed away" is something one peacefully does in their sleep. It implies being older, or mature in age- our children weren't old,,,,but that's just me. Possibly my perspective on this will change as time goes on, and I sincerely hope I didn't step on anyones feet with my response.
My thoughts are with you -on the numerous stumbles and strides that are a part of this daily journey.
Take care Bonnie
Wadesmom