Butterfly,
I'm glad you found this site and am so sorry for what you had to deal with over the loss of your beloved sister. I lost my 11 y/o son Landon on June 1st of this year and am really concerned about his siblings . . . Lyndsay (19), Bryan (16) and Christian (10), who was the closest to him of all the kids, those two did EVERYTHING together. They slept in the same room together ever since he was born and I never thought he'd be able to handle losing his best buddy in the world, Landon. Christian has cried only a few times in the last 6 months, I worry that he isn't really handling the loss at all but perhaps trying to ignore or pretend that Landon isn't gone afterall. He talks about Landon all the time, we're able to talk about things we all did together, funny stories, etc. Maybe I'm trying to read too much into all of this, I just don't want this to hit him years from now.
As a parent, I would hope my kids could come talk to me, it may make them (your folks) sad but they would never want you to walk through your grief alone. Let them know how you're feeling. So many people don't talk to me or say Landon's name for fear of making me sad, but it makes me so sad to have people NOT talk about him, I want people to remember him, sure it will make me cry, but it's better than pretending like nothing happened at all.
My thoughts & prayers are with you,
Landons Mom forever,
Shelly