Rebecca - I'm so sorry that you are still in physical pain.. it sure does make everything else tougher too.. I'm glad you are doing the PT, though it hurts.. and hope that improvement will show itself quickly for your sake..
Your comment about co-workers talking about weekend plans.. brought up something I have been feeling bad about all weekend.. I spoke to my brother last week early in the week.. he had called to see how our vacation was, etc.. I was still a bit high from vacation I'll admit and we had seen such incredible nature (Yosemite, Sequoia) that make you feel so small in the world.. so I told him a little about that and that I'd have to show him our pics.. and how Chris would have loved it, the nature, the history, all of it..
But then I did sometime stupid.. I freely admit it, sometimes I open my mouth and something comes out that I regret.. I asked him what he was doing this Labor Day weekend.. he said he and Ruth were going to the Scottish Games nearby, which always has good music and food, etc.. lots to see... then he asked what we were doing.. I mentioned a couple of invitations we had from friends, and then mentioned that our nephew Thaddeus (hubby's sister's child) is going to Austria for the fall on exchange (he is in high school).. and that we were having a get together dinner before he left..
I immediately felt bad about telling him that.. Thaddeus is 15 now and next year he will be as old as Chris ever got to be.. and that is just unfathomable.. all my friends' kids are around that age too, 15-17.. and it is so hard to see them doing all these milestones (license, proms, etc... and graduation) that Chris never got to...
If I asked Brian if it bothered him, I know what he would say.. he would say that it is part of life to hear about others' kids and that he knows he will hear these things.. but that doesn't mean it doesn't hurt! And I did not mean to cause more pain for him.. so though I have not talked to him about it.. I do feel bad..
Oh Rebecca - what I'm trying to say in my very poor way.. is I"m so sorry it is so painful to hear of other's plans.. and I think only someone who has not lost a child can think about the future that way.. I know Brian doesn't think very far into the future.. and to be honest I don't either.. I have rambled on enough.. but know that you are in my thoughts always.. and your sweet Jason..
big hugs, karen