Dear Lonnie, I am ever so gratful for your comments. You have helped me more that you will ever know!!!! My Brother's service was lovely and very beautiful. My family (my sister husband all my 3 grown sons, aunts and cousins, niece) and my Mother were there. my Mother was shut down because of her side of the family wasn't any where to be seen!!!!!! I know this hurt my Mother deeply, as well as myself and my sister. I couldn't bring myself to tell my Mother about her sister, the one who tried to sabatoge the Minister from showing up at the services.until yesterday. Her sisters and brother's had the nerve to come and pick her up the same day to come to one of their homes to have a family dinner!!!!!! my mother asked them why didn't they come to their nephew's funeral, and they replied they didn't have transportation!!!!!. My Mother said to all of them, you all had transportation to come here, but not to my son's funeral? she was so hurt and devastated, and to top it all off she was given money cards with the money missing!!!!. Somebody had stolen the money!!!!! I have been so hurt devastated by my Mother's sister doing what she did, even though I was envited by another aunt to attend after the services, I would not go, I told my husband I knew that if I saw my aunt I would tell her how I felt about what kind of person she and her, and all her siblings really are, and then I would have busted her in the Mouth!!!!!!!!!! I know myself, and I did not want to embarass, or shame my brother's memory by stinking as low as they are. My sister , husband and son's tell me to just get over it!!!!!! I am the type of person that when I love, I love deep, and when I hurt I hurt DEEPLY. It will be a long time before I get over this event. I know that people are vicious and mean but that took the cake!!!!!!! thanks for lending a ear for me to vent........Sweetpea