Marie: I often reflect on how difficult things are for you, and how much you must suffer without the in home support of Patrick and your husband. Really you have been amazing with all that you do. I know the challenge of getting to the nursing home when you are not feeling well is overwhelming. My mom no longer drives either, and that has been one of the most difficult things for her since my dad died. I try to take her where she needs to go-errands and doctor's appointments-but I am sure that she longs for the times when she could just get in the car and go where she needs to (or wants to). I know that this is such a hard time for you, and that you may feel like giving up. But you are still needed and loved by those that are left. I know that your husband responds to your visits, and I am sure your faithfulness has not gone unnoticed. You do have to take care of yourself though. Sometimes you just have to stop for a little while, take a break, and try to regroup. All of us touched by the death and/or sickness of a close loved one find ourselves experiencing burn-out at times. Some of us are challenged by the care of a surviving loved one, and some are overwhelmed with life itself. We feel fatigued and lost. Grieving does that to us. I wish that you lived near me, and I could help you. Rebecca and Shelly's sugggestions about help and transportation are good. I know that connecting with the right agencies can certainly be frustrating. My prayers and thoughts are with you. Please take care of yourself and know that you mean so much to those of us at Crisis, Grief and Healing. Hugs-Lonnie (from the Main Board)