I have heard many of the things that you have and hated them all, but the one I hated most was when someone would say, " Well, if someone killed my child, they would be dead now, because I would kill them." Whenever someone said this to me, I would respond with " you know, your saying that to me is very offensive, because you apparently think that since I have not killed this man, you love your child more than I love mine, and I can tell you that is not true! Do you think I have not thought of killing this man? Do you think I haven't entertained thoughts of waiting in the apartment complex parking lot and running him down with my car when he comes out? I would never do it though, and neither would you, because what purpose would it serve? What would it do to your family? How would you being in jail help your child? It isn't going to bring them back, because believe me, if it would bring her back, he would CERTAINLY be dead." That usually quiets them. The other remark I hate is "Well, at least you have 3 other children, just think how awful it would be if she had been your only child." HELLO? Where do these people come from. So let's figure this out...since she was 1 of 4, my pain is only 1/4 of what it would be if she were the only one? THINK AGAIN!!! WHICH OF YOUR CHILDREN WOULD YOU BE WILLING TO LOSE IF YOU HAD TO CHOOSE? OR HOW ABOUT SINCE YOU HAVE 2 CHILDREN AND YOUR FRIEND HAS ONLY 1, YOU CHOOSE WHICH OF YOUR 2 YOU WOULD GIVE UP TO DEATH SO YOUR FRIEND OR RELATIVE OR WHOEVER DOES NOT HAVE TO LOSE THEIR ONLY CHILD??!!?? Some people are real idiots!