LuAnn,
I was off of work for 8 months and still had a difficult time going back at first. I was at my desk at work when I recieved the phone call from the police, so every time my phone rang my stomach would just go into knots.
I had tried to go back to work about 2 months or so after Micheal died, but I wasn't able to cope. I didn't realize at the time, but I was in severe depression. I wasn't sleeping, I was dropping weight by the day, I still cried almost all day and I would almost throw up if the phone on my desk rang. So they sent me back home on extended leave and told me they wanted me back, but they wanted me to take time to begin to heal first. I was so, so fortunate.
I have been back since last September and I still have some really rough days, but most days I do ok. And I am lucky to work with some very understanding people who understand that I will never be "back to normal" and just accept the new me.
I really hope that your boss wakes up and gives you the support you need. Make sure that if you can, (financially and with job-security) you take all the time that you need before you take on the world again. You deserve it.
Love and hugs,
Johanna, Micheal's mom