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Child Loss / Re: 18 Months Today
« on: March 14, 2007, 06:31:54 AM »
I don't know what to say Dottie, except that I am so sorry.  I can't even say "I know", because I do have my daughters to live for - though there are days when I wonder if that is enough.  I do understand how overwhelmed you must feel on days like today though - no matter how much I love my girls, they will never fill the void that Micheal left, so I too have days when I just don't want to go on.

So hold on Dottie.  You have shown yourself to be one of the strongest women on this board, as well as one of the most compassionate - unlike me, you respond to almost every thread with words of comfort.  I wish I could do the same for you today, but I know there is very little comfort on days like today.  I am sending you a big (((hug))) though and wishing that Tammi will find a way to bring you a little peace today.

Love and hugs,
Johanna, Micheal's mom

Child Loss / Re: Thank You ALL for your Love and Support!!!
« on: March 12, 2007, 03:14:37 PM »
That's why we are all here John... to help each other through this.

Glad you are doing "better" this week.

Love and hugs,
Johanna, Micheal's mom

Child Loss / Re: Chat
« on: March 10, 2007, 06:46:00 PM »
Looks great Tom. 

As always, thank you for all you do to help us.

Johanna, Micheal's mom

Child Loss / Re: I JUST DON’T KNOW ANYMORE… :'(
« on: March 10, 2007, 06:43:16 PM »
Thank you so much Barb for that post.  I am so terribly sorry for your losses.  I truly don't know how I would cope with what you are going through right now, but by reading your message I have hope that I can "keep moving along" toward finding purpose again.

Your strength and optimism are an inspiration. Your courage in the face of another monumental loss, and the fact that you cared enough about us to imagine that you shouldn't write about your sorrow, humbles me. 

Please, please continue to come here again, so that maybe this time we can help you through this journey.

Wishing you comfort and strength.
Love and hugs,
Johanna, Micheal's mom

  Buy "A Time To Grieve" at amazon

By Carol Staudacher

This one was given to me by the Workplace Safety and Insurance Board councellor who came to see us right after Micheal died.

Very helpful because each page begins with a quote from someone who has survived the death of a loved one, related to the many emotions we go through, and questions we ask, during our grief, including pain, guilt, anger, shame, fear...  It then has a very comforting comment from the author on that specific emotion, question or "stage of grief" and then a comforting  meditation follows.

Broken down into three sections: Retreating, Working Through and Resolving, each quote is a very brief chapter unto itself, so even early in this journey when it is impossible to concentrate to read, this book is "do-able".  In the beginning I felt like almost every "chapter" was written for me.  It will make you cry... but it will comfort you to know that you are not the first person to have these feelings and questions.

I really recommend this book for the newly bereaved, but anyone who has lost someone they love will find comfort in it's pages.

Love and hugs,
Johanna, Micheal's mom

  Buy "Beyond Tears: Living After Losing a Child" at amazon

Nine mothers in collaboratin with Ellen Mitchell, whose children died as young adults, share thier stories.  Gave me much comfort and support during the early months of my first year of grief.

This is one that jumped off the shelf at the bookstore at me.

Very highly recommend to mothers who lost thier children as young adults or even older teenagers.

Love and hugs,
Johanna, Micheal's mom

Believe that it was Jason Rebecca.  Hello from Heaven is one of the most comforting books I have ever read.

Love and hugs,
Johanna, Micheal's mom

Recommended Grief Books / Re: Walking in the Garden of Souls
« on: March 10, 2007, 08:47:15 AM »
Very good book.  I would also like to read "Our Children Forever" by George Anderson, but haven't seen it in our Chapters yet.

Love and hugs,
Johanna, Micheal's mom

Child Loss / Re: Mona and Amber
« on: March 10, 2007, 08:42:52 AM »
To you, I apologize as well for missing Amber's Angel Date.  Although he will never fill the void left in your heart and in your arms by your daughter, how fortunate that you have the comfort of her son.

Love and hugs,
Johanna, Micheal's mom

Child Loss / Re: Missing Traci - 2 years
« on: March 10, 2007, 08:39:31 AM »
I appologize for having missed Traci's Angel Date Maureen.  I hope you found a moment of peace and felt her around you giving you strength to get through it.

Your website is beautiful as is Traci.  My heart is with you my dear.

Love and hugs,
Johanna, Micheal's mom

That poor young girl.  Such tragedy and upheaval for someone so young to bear.

I am so sorry that you have to relive your own heartbreak through this Melissa.

Wishing you, Samantha and your town strength.

Love and hugs,
Johanna, Micheal's mom

Child Loss / Re: Need Help - Warning
« on: March 09, 2007, 08:33:42 AM »
I agree with the others here... A hug, a touch, the words "I am so sorry" and those who were willing to just listen no matter how many times I repeated my story over and over... those are the things that gave me the most comfort.

Just being there and truly understanding is your greatest gift.

Sending love and wishing you and your family strength,
Johanna, Micheal's mom

Child Loss / Re: It's been awhile - Russell Boy
« on: March 09, 2007, 08:19:24 AM »
Wishing you strength to piece the fabric of your family back together.

Love and hugs,
Johanna, Micheal's mom

Child Loss / Re: I JUST DON’T KNOW ANYMORE… :'(
« on: March 09, 2007, 08:17:08 AM »
Everything has been said here already John.  I feel your pain, and all I can do is send you a ((((hug)))), let you know that I care and wish you some moments of peace and comfort as you struggle through this pain.

Love and hugs,
Johanna, Micheal's mom

buy "Love Never Dies" at

Most of the books on the market deal mainly with general grief, and of the limited number that deal with child loss, few of those deal with the loss of a young adult or adult child.

Sandy lost her 18 year old son in 1996 and her book not only tackles the grief process that we are all wading our way painfully through, it takes you through her desperate quest to prove to herself (in part with the help of the now famous John Edward) that there is life after and that her son is still part of her life.

If you like and believe in the work of John Edward (John's contact from Sandy's son is referred to several times in one of John's books) and others like him, I think this book will bring you some amount of comfort.

I highly recommend it.
Love and hugs to all,
Johanna, Micheal's mom

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