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Spouse, Partner Loss / Re: Hey Lisa...
« on: May 31, 2014, 04:33:15 PM »
so happy to hear good news its always a blessing and Im so happy for you and may you remain healthy congrats 
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Spouse, Partner Loss / Re: happy weekend everyone
« on: May 31, 2014, 04:27:59 PM »
thanks for reading and thank you for being their 
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Spouse, Partner Loss / Re: my anniversary
« on: May 26, 2014, 04:41:40 PM »
So glad you shared that with us, ((((((Mousewife))))) John
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Spouse, Partner Loss / happy weekend everyone
« on: May 24, 2014, 11:52:53 AM »
well its that time of year again, spring has sprung and summer is upon us and its time for a change just a little I might say but a change. we have fallen to the pits of hell and returned to form a better us but the struggles we carry with us well its not a burden its an honor the badge of the loved we shared for our mates.
I also want to give a Salute to all our Vets.out their Thank You for your service. and may God Bless us all happy weekend everyone
I also want to give a Salute to all our Vets.out their Thank You for your service. and may God Bless us all happy weekend everyone
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Spouse, Partner Loss / Re: Hey Lisa...
« on: May 23, 2014, 05:31:42 PM »
Hey Lisa good to see your post funny thing I went to check my pobox and coming out to the car right beside of my door is a dime, well lets just say it had to be from Lisa cause Doyle only sends me pennies hope all is better on your end and Im sending you lots of love your way ok ((((((((Lisa))))))
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Spouse, Partner Loss / Re: Just Another Day
« on: May 04, 2014, 04:54:46 PM »
(((((((((((Frank)))))))))))
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Spouse, Partner Loss / Re: How is everyone doing?
« on: May 04, 2014, 04:39:17 PM »
it is strange how spring fever is just that a fever for us but it to as the pollen that falls and makes us well you know the feeling this to shall pass lots of hugs to everyone
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Spouse, Partner Loss / Re: Post from John/jbryant titled "At Peace"
« on: May 04, 2014, 04:32:46 PM »
you know its strange you brought this out Terry but thank you. I was answering an email from a friend and this just popped in my mind and I just had to tell him so now will share with yall.
it is true a big ol piece of us dies with our spouse on that day but then on that same day we are reborn (but cant see the forest yet cause nature takes over) so after everything is over everyone has went back to their lives and were all alone and weve taken many baby steps to get here. only then do we start to see the forest through all the fog from all the tears weve shed and still do.But Im only 21 months old now in my new world yes their is days were you just don't feel like doing nothing but life and time is to short and we have no control over what happens. Hospice has been a great help on my road and always will from this point on, I have a lot to learn still and the roller coaster ride is still going but not as fast and up and down and I answer to everyone when they ask how im doing all I can say is better than before . again Terry thank you it was a good read
it is true a big ol piece of us dies with our spouse on that day but then on that same day we are reborn (but cant see the forest yet cause nature takes over) so after everything is over everyone has went back to their lives and were all alone and weve taken many baby steps to get here. only then do we start to see the forest through all the fog from all the tears weve shed and still do.But Im only 21 months old now in my new world yes their is days were you just don't feel like doing nothing but life and time is to short and we have no control over what happens. Hospice has been a great help on my road and always will from this point on, I have a lot to learn still and the roller coaster ride is still going but not as fast and up and down and I answer to everyone when they ask how im doing all I can say is better than before . again Terry thank you it was a good read
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Spouse, Partner Loss / Re: Just Another Day
« on: May 01, 2014, 06:26:02 PM »
Thank you Lisa im trying they tell me im doing good but im only working the phones and I love it.
Frank your pain is so raw right now Im so happy your here and yes you will be strong it just takes time baby steps first and don't forget to breathe your on a pump so I know you know your health but even the best of us just forget
Frank your pain is so raw right now Im so happy your here and yes you will be strong it just takes time baby steps first and don't forget to breathe your on a pump so I know you know your health but even the best of us just forget
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Spouse, Partner Loss / Re: Maureen's Angel Date (((Arthur)))
« on: May 01, 2014, 06:19:17 PM »
I totally do coming up on my 2nd year and still unpacking boxes out of storage its a challenge but yes I miss Doyle more now and it will always be that way from what im finding out but time will tell but were keeping the faith
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Spouse, Partner Loss / Re: LOST
« on: May 01, 2014, 06:14:56 PM »
hello Frank and welcome to WH your at the right place at the right time and as everyone has said and pointed out you need to take care of Frank now, this my friend is the hardest journey of your life, and it I lost my spouse of 35 yrs to lung cancer in 2012 the day I died as well but being gay with no children well that's place only I can go and others like me but we all loved the same way but we all grive differently yes uve been their where you are and its not a nice place but it will get better Im a loner always have been and we lived a very private life with little friends and the friends we had were all in the brick mason work and Doyle was the mason so you know where that left me. I put my nose in books (his death was very sudden due to a missed tumor)but before the cancer he fell off a ladder at work and shattered his femer and tiba and that let to 2 new knees and finally amputation but he was a trooper with all that. your not going crazy and dont hurt yourself with all the woulda shoulda coulda that you had no control over Im so sorry to hear of your Hospice experenice as I am a hospice voulenteer and Im the person here in my county that makes that call to the newly bereaved family I don't know what could have happened in your case and that not what hospice wants to hear I wish I could help you their. music and books worked for me in the beginning and doing hospice is a big help I can tell you this you and your family can get up to a year of counseling from hospice at no cost to you or your family and this is core policy again sorry we had to meet this way but your here for a reason and we all are very you are here. may God speed you to a healthy recovery
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Spouse, Partner Loss / Just Another Day
« on: April 25, 2014, 05:20:31 PM »
Time has marched on since I first got here and it seems like yesterday,so many changes, so much to reflect on the good times the bad and all in between. it will be 20 months and it can be another 20 yrs and the pain will stay, we have no choice of the matter as im finding out. so I just roll with it cross that bridge when I get to it and try to make the most of what life has instore for me, Im sure in time I will figure it out but for now still one day at a time, becoming a Hospice Volunteer has help me along this journey more than I know how to explain it. it just gives you a warm feeling inside knowing just being their for them in their last days is all it takes.
no matter how long I walk on the earth my relationship with Doyle will never die and I will wait till we meet again. thanks for listening and remember we are all here for the same reason JB
no matter how long I walk on the earth my relationship with Doyle will never die and I will wait till we meet again. thanks for listening and remember we are all here for the same reason JB
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Spouse, Partner Loss / Re: How is everyone doing?
« on: April 25, 2014, 04:59:55 PM »
DaveB I think we all are still frozen in time on that date and always will be but im finding that change is the key just gradual small changes but we never know the bridge were gonna cross until we get their but being a hospice volunteer has helped me and they are always looking for volunteers and they train you and it works out pretty good I do hope you peace. and and Like my Doyles aunt told me at when I buried him you have to let go so they can rest in peace old Indian proverb.
ps Terry I know I should not post here but just wanted to answer dave many thanks Johnb
ps Terry I know I should not post here but just wanted to answer dave many thanks Johnb
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Spouse, Partner Loss / Re: How is everyone doing?
« on: April 24, 2014, 06:07:03 PM »
Im good as can be I guess still doing my hospice I now make phone calls twice a week now to the patients and I lost my 1st patient this month but its all good im coming up on my 2 yr since Doyle passed and I miss him so much im trying to move forward but as you well know its all about time so im taking my time working my grief and probably be working it till my time is through but im helping others in their time and I heal from it that's how Im doing Terry thank you for asking
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Spouse, Partner Loss / Re: Maureen's Angel Date (((Arthur)))
« on: April 19, 2014, 04:45:03 PM »
sending you warm hugs ((((Arthur)))) and its just a reminder of how much you loved