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Sibling Loss / Re: Strange thing happened ...
« on: July 07, 2009, 01:28:58 PM »

If I were you, I would follow my gut instinct. You should do whatever you feel is best for you.  Sometimes our little inner voice is worth listening to and other times it just leads you on a wild goose chase. 

Main / Re: Couples & Loneliness .........
« on: June 19, 2009, 10:00:10 AM »

Even though I have lost both parents, my brother and my sister I can't begin to imagine what you have been going through. What you are going through is my biggest fear. I just can't imagine what I would do without my hubby.  So many of the things you wrote in your post hit home with me about some of the feelings I have over the loss of my family.  I feel that most people just can't comprehend what it's like to have lost a loved one until they actually go through it.  Kay, I don't really know what to say to make you feel better, so I will just give you a ((((((BIG HUG)))))).  Hope better days come your way soon.


So many " truths" in your post with the "you know you're getting better when...."
thanks for sharing this with all of us. 

Main / Re: How can I help my mother get over my Brother's death?
« on: June 06, 2009, 01:42:09 PM »
I agree with much of the advice already given.  At this stage in your grief it's easy to just feel the pain.  For me healing began when I started to remember the fun times that I had with my family or some of the quirky things that they did.  I know that you will always feel sorrow over the loss of your brother, but try to let the good memories come back to you.   Talk about the things that your brother enjoyed or laugh over the little things in life that got on his nerves.  My guess is that your Mom will find a few things to reminise about too.

Take Care,

Sad Eyes

Sibling Loss / Re: I miss her so much.
« on: May 27, 2009, 04:44:17 AM »
This is such a tragic loss for you. :'( :'( :'(  I can't begin to imagine how much you miss your little sister.  Just wanted you to know I was thinking of you.

Sibling Loss / Re: Memorial Day thoughts
« on: May 26, 2009, 05:03:14 AM »
It seems that people expect us to be over our loss once the funeral is over.  People seem uncomfortable whenever I bring up my family. Talking about my family and remembering the good times is what helped in my healing process.  My losses are no longer new like both of yours are, but I still feel the impact of their deaths daily.  Onesadgirl425 and Youngersis I hope being here on this site will bring you comfort and peace.

Sad Eyes

Main / Re: Losing both parents too young
« on: May 25, 2009, 05:28:25 AM »
Dear Stacycakes,

I too have lost both parents, but can't even begin to imagine what it would have been like at 22!!!  I'm sure your aunt also feels their loss.  I hope that you and your aunt can find comfort by sharing your grief with each other.  Take care and come back and share more of your story with us.

Sad Eyes

Main / Re: Time is running out...
« on: May 25, 2009, 05:23:06 AM »
Welcome MonkeyMountain10,

I understand your fears, but you shouldn't let your fears hamper the way you live your life.  My advice, enjoy your family and live for the present!!!  Hope you have a nice Memorial Day!

Sad Eyes

Sibling Loss / Re: Heavan
« on: May 19, 2009, 04:17:42 PM »
I also think there is some kind of afterlife. I have had signs from my loved ones.  Not often, but at times and over things that nobody else would know about.  I like it when this happens it's very comforting.

Sibling Loss / Re: I lost my 9 year old sister
« on: May 19, 2009, 10:57:03 AM »
Dear Onesadgirl425,

I am so sorry for the loss of your sister.  The "what ifs' that surround such a sudden passing only add to the pain and anguish.  I hope that talking with others who have lost loved ones can help ease your mind and bring you some peace.  Take care!!

Sad Eyes

Main / Re: Grave Decoration
« on: May 19, 2009, 10:49:35 AM »
Hi Kevin,

Your devotion to your wife shows and I can't begin to imagine how much you miss her.  Everytime I read something that you have written it reminds me of my brother-in-law.  I know how much I miss my sister, but you have given me a different view of how her passing has affected my brother-in-law.  It's been several years since my sister passed away but my brother-in-law is still close to me and celebrates holidays at my house.  I'm really glad that you still have contact with her extended family, they are lucky to have you!!!  Take care!

Sad Eyes

Sibling Loss / Re: Lost my brother 2 weeks ago
« on: May 18, 2009, 11:43:25 AM »
So very sorry for your loss.  I'm sure in some ways your knowledge as a hospice nurse made your sorrow even more painful.  You knew the signs and were looking for them.  I have lost several loved ones to cancer and know that hospice nurses are angels here on earth.  I was shocked to read that your employers were not more supportative of you during your time of need, I'm sorry that you had to endure that heartache as well.  Be kind to yourself and don't try to rush yourself back to "normal" life.  I have found that the so called normal in our lives changes after the loss of a loved one. With time your good memories of your brother will over shadow the memories of his bout with cancer.  Take care!!!

Sad Eyes

P. S.  You sound like a wonderful aunt!!!  Thank goodness your nephew has you. When the time is right each of you will bring healing to the other.

Sibling Loss / Re: Missing my sister
« on: May 18, 2009, 07:44:08 AM »
Dear Lilsister,

You have my deepest sympathy.  I understand what you are going through.  I also lost my sister who was 10 years older to cancer and she also left behind two sons. My nephews are I are very close and I feel that this helps all of us by sharing our memories of her.  Hope you are able to do the same with your family.

Sad Eyes

Main / Re: My Mothers day gift
« on: May 13, 2009, 11:40:44 AM »
That is wonderful that your sister was kind enough to give you your Mother's rings.
I have my Mom's rings and wouldn't part with them for anything. I know you will always cherish those rings and the comfort they will provide you for many years to come.  Happy belated birthday.

Sad Eyes

Main / Re: I'm New But...
« on: May 13, 2009, 11:32:26 AM »
Hi Sidney,

First of all you have my sympathy for your losses.  Just because they are not recent losses doesn't mean you don't still feel the pain and sorrow that comes from having lost a loved one. This website is a great place to talk with others who also have lost loved ones.  You will find many compasionate people who are willing to help you with your grief.

Sad Eyes

Main / Re: I am being mean
« on: May 11, 2009, 05:08:13 AM »

I am so sorry that you are feeling such a mix of emotions right now. It's ok to feel hasn't been fair to you, taking Mike away from you much much too soon.  I hope that the good memories you have of Mike will soon overcome the pain and sorrow you are feeling.

((((((Terri))))))  wish I could do something more to help ease your sorrow.  My thoughts are prayers are with you.

Sad Eyes

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