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Child Loss / Re: Explaination

« on: June 20, 2011, 11:51:00 AM »

Hi Peggy -  Good to see you and glad that you are with us!  I hope your body heals quick.

T

Hi All,

As I told Terry in email, I am sorry for the post I made.  I was not aware at the time, I was having a medical problem that was affecting both my body and my mental stability.  I knew at the time, I was very sick with IBS, a condition I have had for a number of years.  I just knew it was the worse I had had in years.

I was so sick one Saturday, a neighbor call a ambulance for me.  ER docs said it was nothing more than the IBS and told me to see a gastro doc.

 I hated the idea of paying 200 for a office call, but I made the appt, and in reality, that office call probably saved my life, or at least stopped me from getting worse than what I was.  The doctor checked my blood tests that the hospital had run Saturday night, and all of my electrolytes were much lower than than should have been.  Sodium level was 115, which the dr said he was surprised I was still functioning at all.  So, I am off 2 blood pressure pills and have added salt back to my diet, and have to go bi monthly for blood tests till levels get back to at least near normal.

Blood pressure is staying within normal ranges, and its nice to eat a bag of chips without feeling guilty.

I can only work part time until blood levels return to normal. Its kinda of nice working just 3 days a week.  I have a terrific boss who is working with me on hours!

The low sodium level can cause muscle pain, mental confusion and, logical reasoning is impaired and a lot of other things. I had all those symptoms, but put it off to working too many hours and getting older.

Again, I am sorry.  I have used Toms healing web sinse the beginning, and am glad to be back.

Love and Hugs
Peggy

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Child Loss / Re: How is it possible?????

« on: June 20, 2011, 08:30:23 AM »

What?  Against you?   How did you get to that?  I support you as being a great poster here for some time.  I don't 'have any idea what you are saying here?

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Child Loss / Re: So Sorry For Offending Some

« on: June 20, 2011, 07:33:16 AM »

Sadly this is what happens the people who care are forced off the board by those who only think of themselves, we all hurt, we all grieve, we all should be able to say how we are feeling.
Don, I am available privately you have my email I private messaged you.


Dottie Tammie's Mom

Coming in and making passive accusations is not helpful in the least.  Who are you accusing here Dottie? 

This sort of passive accusation is what is now being termed "relational violence."  It has no place on a board such as this and won't be tolerated. 

Misunderstandings are common place on these forums with each person being at a heightened state due to the nature of their loss.  This is understandable and hopefully we get people talking and all is understood and forgiven in the long run.  Don has been a great poster on the board for some time and I surely hope he decides to stick around.

Tom

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Child Loss / Re: So Sorry For Offending Some

« on: June 19, 2011, 06:38:09 PM »

Sadly this is what happens the people who care are forced off the board by those who only think of themselves, we all hurt, we all grieve, we all should be able to say how we are feeling.
Don, I am available privately you have my email I private messaged you.


Dottie Tammie's Mom

Coming in and making passive accusations is not helpful in the least.  Who are you accusing here Dottie? 

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Sibling Loss / Apologies for the down time

« on: June 10, 2011, 08:42:15 AM »

My apologies for the down time.  The site was hacked last night and it took me a good deal of time to bring it up again.  I think things are all set.  It is nothing for you to worry over.  It was obviously hackers that tried to redirect traffic from webhealing to their choice of sites.  It is fixed at this point and all should be back to normal.

The way the hackers got in was likely the chat program.  I have now disabled it. I prefer to keep the boards and site running free and in order to do this I think we will have to sacrifice the chat for now.  It won't be long until the newest version of this software comes out and when it does we will find a new chat for those who are interested.

Sorry for the inconvenience.

Tom

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Suicide Loss / Apologies for the down time

« on: June 10, 2011, 08:41:49 AM »

My apologies for the down time.  The site was hacked last night and it took me a good deal of time to bring it up again.  I think things are all set.  It is nothing for you to worry over.  It was obviously hackers that tried to redirect traffic from webhealing to their choice of sites.  It is fixed at this point and all should be back to normal.

The way the hackers got in was likely the chat program.  I have now disabled it. I prefer to keep the boards and site running free and in order to do this I think we will have to sacrifice the chat for now.  It won't be long until the newest version of this software comes out and when it does we will find a new chat for those who are interested.

Sorry for the inconvenience.

Tom

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Parent Loss / Apologies for the down time

« on: June 10, 2011, 08:41:24 AM »

My apologies for the down time.  The site was hacked last night and it took me a good deal of time to bring it up again.  I think things are all set.  It is nothing for you to worry over.  It was obviously hackers that tried to redirect traffic from webhealing to their choice of sites.  It is fixed at this point and all should be back to normal.

The way the hackers got in was likely the chat program.  I have now disabled it. I prefer to keep the boards and site running free and in order to do this I think we will have to sacrifice the chat for now.  It won't be long until the newest version of this software comes out and when it does we will find a new chat for those who are interested.

Sorry for the inconvenience.

Tom

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Spouse, Partner Loss / Apologies for the down time

« on: June 10, 2011, 08:40:57 AM »

My apologies for the down time.  The site was hacked last night and it took me a good deal of time to bring it up again.  I think things are all set.  It is nothing for you to worry over.  It was obviously hackers that tried to redirect traffic from webhealing to their choice of sites.  It is fixed at this point and all should be back to normal.

The way the hackers got in was likely the chat program.  I have now disabled it. I prefer to keep the boards and site running free and in order to do this I think we will have to sacrifice the chat for now.  It won't be long until the newest version of this software comes out and when it does we will find a new chat for those who are interested.

Sorry for the inconvenience.

Tom

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Child Loss / Apologies for the down time

« on: June 10, 2011, 08:40:29 AM »

My apologies for the down time.  The site was hacked last night and it took me a good deal of time to bring it up again.  I think things are all set.  It is nothing for you to worry over.  It was obviously hackers that tried to redirect traffic from webhealing to their choice of sites.  It is fixed at this point and all should be back to normal.

The way the hackers got in was likely the chat program.  I have now disabled it. I prefer to keep the boards and site running free and in order to do this I think we will have to sacrifice the chat for now.  It won't be long until the newest version of this software comes out and when it does we will find a new chat for those who are interested.

Sorry for the inconvenience.

Tom

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Grief not related to deaths / Apologies for the down time

« on: June 10, 2011, 08:39:32 AM »

My apologies for the down time.  The site was hacked last night and it took me a good deal of time to bring it up again.  I think things are all set.  It is nothing for you to worry over.  It was obviously hackers that tried to redirect traffic from webhealing to their choice of sites.  It is fixed at this point and all should be back to normal.

The way the hackers got in was likely the chat program.  I have now disabled it. I prefer to keep the boards and site running free and in order to do this I think we will have to sacrifice the chat for now.  It won't be long until the newest version of this software comes out and when it does we will find a new chat for those who are interested.

Sorry for the inconvenience.

Tom

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Main / Re: Chat Room is Open

« on: June 10, 2011, 08:38:25 AM »

Sorry but the chat is closed at this point.  For details you can see here

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Main / Apologies for the down time

« on: June 10, 2011, 08:36:23 AM »

My apologies for the down time.  The site was hacked last night and it took me a good deal of time to bring it up again.  I think things are all set.  It is nothing for you to worry over.  It was obviously hackers that tried to redirect traffic from webhealing to their choice of sites.  It is fixed at this point and all should be back to normal.

The way the hackers got in was likely the chat program.  I have now disabled it. I prefer to keep the boards and site running free and in order to do this I think we will have to sacrifice the chat for now.  It won't be long until the newest version of this software comes out and when it does we will find a new chat for those who are interested.

Sorry for the inconvenience.

Tom

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Child Loss / Re: info

« on: June 08, 2011, 02:02:03 PM »

if there are cliques here I sure don't know about it. so sorry you feel ignored surely not intentional. Give it some time and see how things work out. Tom

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Suicide Loss / Re: Passing of Niece Year Ago Yesterday

« on: April 14, 2011, 12:53:44 PM »

Hi Karen -  I got a minute and wanted to check in with you.  Are you presently in therapy?  If so, it would be important that you run by them your situation of being in bed most of the day.  You are correct.  This can be a sign of serious burn out and depression. It can also be a sign that you aren't feeling so hot physically.  A good therapist is going to help you to sort out what is happening and most importantly to start helping you take some actions to take good care of yourself.  Sometimes  we can focus so much on others that we forget ourselves.  Make sure that is not the case. 

Tom

Dear Tom,

I so appreciate your kindess.  Once again you have helped me through another family death like you did when I lost my parents 17 years ago.

The woulda, coulda, shouldas always creep in.  Yes the finger pointing sets in when a death is not natural.  His wife, remaining daughters and sons in law have gone over the top to make sure John 'knows' Jenny's passing was his fault.  Along with grieving he is still recovering from his spinal surgery.  He is unable to work as yet and my fingers are crossed that his application for Social Security disability will come through.  Many have asked why John just doesn't leave and get a divorce.  John is terrified of being alone as he has never been alone.  The emotional abuse from his family is outrageous.  I've been helping him this past year with paperwork stuff and have tried to arrange for state assistance.  Even after a long session with Utah's Adult Protective Service director, John is not considered a vulnerable adult.  Blows my mind.  Any positive self esteem is gone.

I've committed him twice to the U of Utah Hospital psych unit after he said he was going to do himself in.  So what do you do -- just worry I guess.  He did accomplish detoxing from Methadone at least.

Most Fondly -- Karen

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Suicide Loss / Re: Passing of Niece Year Ago Yesterday

« on: April 14, 2011, 04:55:16 AM »

hi Karen -  I am out of town giving workshops and can't give you a great response.  Let me get back home this weekend and have a look. 
Tom